Control vs. Surrender: When Divine Timing Is Better Than Your Plan

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) This week was a lot — fresh off New York Fashion Week, deep in chocolate tempering trial and error, a movie release date looming, and fear creeping in about all of it. Then I watched three people I love achieve dreams they'd worked toward for years, and it reminded me: time is divine. Not our timing — divine timing. In this episode, I'm teaching what happens when you stop trying to control the outcome and start trusting the timing. I get honest about trying to force my chocolate line, my movie release, and my licensing to move on my schedule — and what that control actually cost me: blocked creativity, anxiety, broken trust, exhaustion, and missed signs (including a migraine that took me out for days). I share what I witnessed watching two friends make history hosting a Caribbean-centered show at New York Fashion Week, and another friend finally become a mother after years of difficulty — all reminders that what's meant for you arrives in its own time. I close with exercises to help you find where you're gripping control, and Wednesday, Catherine Chestnut joins me to teach exactly how to put surrender into practice. We talk about: • Why control is an illusion — you can only control your effort, not the timing • What trying to force outcomes actually costs: blocked creativity, anxiety, broken trust, exhaustion, missed signs • What watching three people's dreams come true this week taught her about divine timing • The connection to this month's Day 8 manifestation countdown theme: release • Separating "your part" (showing up, doing the work, staying ready) from "God's part" (the timing, the outcome, the miracles) • Exercises: naming what you're trying to force, asking how that control is working for you, and committing to your part while releasing the rest • A preview of Wednesday's guest, Catherine Chestnut, who will teach how to put surrender into real practice If you've been forcing a timeline, a business outcome, or an answer that isn't ready to come yet, this episode is the permission to do your part — and release the rest. In This Episode • Grounding practice — "Your job is to do the work. God's job is the timing." • What this week taught her — New York Fashion Week, chocolate tempering, and a looming movie release • Control is an illusion — what forcing outcomes actually costs • Watching three dreams come true — a history-making fashion show and a long-awaited motherhood journey • Manifestation countdown, Day 8: Release — "I release the version of me that survived beautifully, but was never meant to live forever" • Exercise 1: Where are you trying to control? • Exercise 2: Your part vs. God's part • Coming Wednesday — Catherine Chestnut teaches how to put surrender into practice • Closing affirmations — "I do my part with excellence. I trust divine timing more than my timeline." Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for behind-the-scenes content and Flashback Fridays 📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes This episode is sponsored by Goalie Ashwagandha Gummies and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App — your partners in nervous system support and divine timing. Connect with Nyomi • Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast (https://instagram.com/theseasonofsellovepodcast) • Facebook: theseasonofselflove (https://facebook.com/theseasonofselflove) Tags / Keywords divine timing, control vs surrender, faith vs fear, letting go, manifestation, self-love podcast, mindset Monday, trusting the process, New York Fashion Week, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, personal growth, releasing control, patience and faith Elevate Me: Self Discovery App (https://studio.com/nyomi/elevate?a=season-user&c=Dle0QNTV) 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies (https://go.goli.com/AskNyomi) Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks (https://instagram.com/TheRealNyomiBanks) | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast (Https://instagram.com/theseasonofselflovepodcast) **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove (https://youtube.com/theseasonofselflove) for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-D...

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