Reclaiming Your Story: The Real Reason Manifestation Isn't Working (With Kelsey Aida)

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) What if the real reason manifestation isn't working has nothing to do with doing it wrong, and everything to do with a part of you that doesn't feel safe receiving what you're asking for? This week, I'm joined by Kelsey Aida, energetic alignment coach, best-selling author, and co-host of the High Vibing It podcast. Kelsey focuses on the missing piece in manifestation that most people don't talk about: resistance, and how self-love is often the real doorway to change. We talk about reclaiming your story after an identity-shaking loss (Kelsey's path began with a dance-ending injury and a long dark night of the soul), why the "newness" of who you're becoming can feel dangerous to your subconscious, and why self-sabotage is really misguided self-love. We also get into feeling your feelings in your body instead of thinking about them, the difference between toxic positivity and true alignment, how to tell intuition from fear, and what it looks like to love the parts of yourself you've been rejecting. I even had a healing moment live on air, and I think you might too. We talk about: • What "reclaiming your story" means in the context of manifestation and alignment • How contrast, loss, and rock-bottom moments can become a stepping-off point instead of proof you're not enough • Why the fear of the unknown is often really a fear of not belonging, and why "it's safe to be me" is a powerful reminder • Resistance explained without shame: the "but" attached to what you want, and how to listen for it • Why self-sabotage is misguided self-love, and how to have a loving conversation with the part of you that's scared • Feeling your feelings somatically (in the body) instead of thinking about them, and letting emotion move like a wave • Alignment vs. toxic positivity: why being authentic matters more than being positive all the time • What self-love looks like when you're anxious or feeling unworthy: making your own well-being important to you • Getting curious about anxiety, sadness, and other parts of you you've rejected, and thanking them for trying to protect you • Intuition vs. fear: "Fear screams, intuition whispers" • A deathbed "future pacing" exercise for big decisions If you've ever wanted something good and found yourself pulling away right when it arrived, this conversation offers a gentler way to understand it. In This Episode • 60-second guided meditation — "I am safe to receive. I release resistance." • Meet Kelsey Aida — energetic alignment coach, author, and podcast co-host • Reclaiming the desires of your heart — and your highest timeline • When an identity is taken away — Kelsey's injury, her dark night of the soul, and who you are without the labels • Why newness feels dangerous — the subconscious, survival, and belonging • What resistance really is — and how to hear it without shame • Self-sabotage as misguided self-love — including a dating example and the "juice box" approach to your scared parts • Feeling vs. thinking about feelings — the somatic practice, and a live healing moment • Alignment vs. toxic positivity • Self-love as the foundation of manifestation — and loving the parts you've disowned • Intuition vs. fear — and the deathbed future-pacing exercise • Where to find Kelsey — plus a promise of a Part 2 • Closing reflection — where are you in resistance, and what is it trying to protect you from? About Kelsey Aida Kelsey Aida is an energetic alignment coach, best-selling author, and co-host of the High Vibing It podcast. Her work focuses on resistance, the often-overlooked piece of manifestation, and on self-love as the doorway to change. • Website: KelseyAida.com (https://kelseyaida.com) • New book: The Manifesting Fix, launching December 1 (pre-orders available at KelseyAida.com) • Podcast: High Vibing It • Substack: Aligned and Abundant A Gentle Invitation From This Episode This week, you're invited to ask yourself: Where am I in resistance, and what is that resistance trying to protect me from? Then name it, soothe your nervous system, and take one aligned action. Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content 💬 Loved this conversation? Share it with someone who needs to hear it, leave a review, and send me a message on Instagram to tell me what it brought up for you. Connect with Nyomi • Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast (https://instagram.com/theseasonofsellovepodcast) • Facebook: theseasonofselflove (https://facebook.com/...

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What's Really Blocking Your Manifestation? It's Not What You Think

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) You've visualized it, affirmed it, and put it on the vision board. You're asking for the relationship, but you're still single. You're declaring abundance, but you feel blocked. And you're wondering what you're doing wrong. In this Mindset Monday episode, I'm sitting down with you to talk about the part of manifestation nobody puts in the course: resistance. What if it isn't a personal failure or proof that you're not believing hard enough? What if it's a part of you that doesn't feel safe receiving yet, and is trying to protect you? I share how I used to shame myself for "blocking" my own progress, how a big fear about taxes once held me back when I was making more money, and what changed when I got curious instead of critical. We also talk about the big "but" that hides inside what we say we want, and why you don't have to become someone else to receive it. You just have to trust who you already are. We talk about: • Why manifestation can stall even when you're doing "everything right" • Resistance as protection, not a flaw: a part of you asking, "Are we safe? Are we ready?" • Why shaming yourself for being "in your own way" only makes it heavier • The big "but" attached to what you want: money, but...; relationship, but...; visibility, but... • What happens when half of you moves forward and the other half holds back • Getting curious: what is this resistance protecting me from? • Day 29 of the birthday manifestation countdown: "I manifest complete trust in the person I have become." If you've been asking for something while quietly hoping it doesn't happen, this one is for you. A Gentle Invitation From This Episode This week, you're invited to notice if there's something you're asking for while also kind of hoping it doesn't happen. No fixing, no judging. Just get curious about what that part of you is trying to protect. In This Episode • Opening — doing all the manifesting work and still feeling blocked • Grounding practice — "You are safe to receive." • What nobody tells you in the manifestation courses • Sponsor break — Washington Wellness Institute • Resistance reframed — a part of you trying to protect you, not an enemy • The cost of shaming it — and what changes when you get curious • Examples of resistance — taxes, being truly seen, criticism and visibility • The big "but" — the information hiding inside what you want • Manifestation countdown, Day 29 — "I manifest complete trust in the person I have become." • Closing affirmations — "I am not becoming someone else. I am becoming more of myself." • Coming Wednesday — guest Kelsey Aida on trusting that version of yourself even when resistance shows up Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 🧘 Washington Wellness Institute — Sign up for a free 15-minute consultation with Dr. Will Washington on modernizing mental wellness into a holistic lifestyle 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is sponsored by Goalie Ashwagandha Gummies and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App. Connect with Nyomi • Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast (https://instagram.com/theseasonofsellovepodcast) • Facebook: theseasonofselflove (https://facebook.com/theseasonofselflove) Elevate Me: Self Discovery App (https://studio.com/nyomi/elevate?a=season-user&c=Dle0QNTV) 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks (https://instagram.com/TheRealNyomiBanks) | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast (Https://instagram.com/theseasonofselflovepodcast) **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove (https://youtube.com/theseasonofselflove) for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi)   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one anot...

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What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? Healing Through Heartbreak and Loss (With Jonathon Aslay)

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) You know how to love other people. You know how to show up for everyone else. But somewhere along the way, loving yourself became the hardest relationship of all. That's not a character flaw. Nobody ever taught you how. This week, I'm kicking off Season 6 Wisdom Wednesdays with Jonathon Aslay, author of What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? and a dating and relationship coach on a mission to help both men and women fully love themselves. After a divorce, a lost career, and the loss of his 19-year-old son, Connor, in 2018, Jonathon's own grief sent him on a soul-searching journey that changed how he coaches, writes, and lives. We talk about what self-love really means, nurturing the emotional "six-year-old" inside all of us, the difference between self-love and selfishness, why dating has become a form of entertainment, how insecure attachment pulls us away from our own sovereignty, and why he believes gratitude is the highest form of love. He also shares one real action you can take today, especially if you're in the middle of heartbreak or self-doubt. We talk about: • What self-love is — and the one thing Jonathon would add to his book: nurturing your emotional six-year-old • How divorce, loss, and a long season of depression became the starting point for his healing work • Grieving with love instead of suffering, and why gratitude and acceptance became his foundation • Taking personal ownership of your life instead of living from victim consciousness • The line between self-love and selfishness • Why so few of us can say why we want a relationship or what its purpose is • Insecure attachment, and how attaching to someone in an unhealthy way can pull you away from your own sovereignty • Loving on yourself versus fully loving yourself — and why growth is enough • One action to start today: a fear and limiting-beliefs inventory, with forgiveness • Reclaimed & Unashamed: reclaiming his spirituality If you're in the middle of heartbreak, loss, or self-doubt and aren't sure where to start, this conversation offers a gentle place to begin. In This Episode • Guided meditation — "You don't have to earn the love you already carry inside of you." • Meet Jonathon Aslay — author, coach, and father on a mission to help people love themselves • Self-love, evolving — what Jonathon would add to his 2019 book • From divorce and depression to emotional scaffolding — the personal development journey that came before loss • What is love, really? — the questions behind the book • Personal responsibility vs. victim consciousness • Favorite chapters — "Speak your truth, do it with kindness" and "If it's sincere and from the heart, you can't say the wrong thing to the right person" • Self-love vs. selfishness • The purpose of relationships today — and why dating has become entertainment • Attachment and sovereignty • Grieving with love — choosing gratitude and acceptance after losing his son • One action to start today — writing out your fears, insecurities, and limiting beliefs, forgiving yourself, and asking "Gus" (God, Universe, Spirit) how to heal • Reclaimed & Unashamed — Jonathon's answer • Closing thoughts — "You are worthy of love, starting with your own." About Jonathon Aslay Jonathon Aslay is the author of What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? (2019) and a dating and relationship coach who works with both men and women. After losing his 19-year-old son, Connor, in a 2018 accident, his own grief reshaped how he coaches, writes, and lives. Search his name online to find his YouTube channel, website, and social media; his book is available on Amazon. Books mentioned in this episode: What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? by Jonathon Aslay, Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer, and The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 🎬 Souls premieres October 22 on Tubi 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is sponsored by Goalie and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App. Connect with Nyomi • Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast (https://instagram.com/theseasonofsellovepodcast) • Facebook: theseasonofselflove (https://facebook.com/theseasonofselflove) Tags / Keywords self-love, Jonathon Aslay, What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway, grief and healing, heartbreak, relationship coaching, inner child, attachment styles, dating and relationships, gratitude, wisdom Wednesday, season 6, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, guest interview, self-awarene...

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Trust What You Cannot See: Self-Love Begins With Faith in Yourself

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) Season 6 is here, and Mindset Monday is back. I'm opening with something real: a few weeks ago, I taught on divine timing while still waiting on dates, confirmation, and proof that things were actually happening. Fear was loud. So I went to my altar, released it, and the very next day after that episode went live, I got the confirmation I'd been waiting for. In this episode, I'm sitting down with you to talk about what trust actually looks like in real life. Not having it all figured out, but doing the thing anyway when you don't know yet, when fear says it won't work, and when everyone is asking "but when?" I share what happens when we don't trust ourselves (we get stuck controlling everything else, and control becomes exhausting), what shifted for me when I stopped trying to figure it out and simply showed up, and why you can love yourself while you're scared. No checklist today, just a gentle invitation to notice where you're waiting and what you'd do if you didn't need every answer first. We talk about: • Why real trust isn't "knowing" — it's moving forward in the "I don't know yet" space • What happens when we don't trust ourselves: control, anxiety, being blocked, and missing the signs • What shifted when I stopped fighting and started trusting • Why fear gets louder when you're trying to control the outcome • Loving yourself while you're scared • A gentle invitation: what are you waiting on, and what would you do if you didn't need all the answers first? • Day 22 of the birthday manifestation countdown — today's word: Trust If you're waiting on a decision, a conversation, a dream you haven't said out loud, or a confirmation that hasn't arrived yet, this episode is for you. In This Episode • Opening story — teaching divine timing while still learning it, and the confirmation that arrived the next day • Season 6 kickoff — Mindset Monday and Wisdom Wednesday are back • Grounding practice — "You don't need to have every answer before you take the next step." • What trust actually is — not knowing, but moving anyway • The blocks — control, fear, anxiety, and missing the signs • What changed — showing up, trusting the work already done, and releasing at the altar • The "I don't know yet" place — where trust lives • An invitation, not a checklist — noticing what you're waiting on • Manifestation countdown, Day 22: Trust — "I manifest the courage to trust what I cannot see yet." • Closing affirmations — "I trust myself. I am worthy of my own trust." • Coming Wednesday — a guest on trusting the process in uncertain spaces Resources & Links 🎬 Souls premieres October 22 on Tubi — written by Nyomi (credited as Amanda D.) 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content. A full series on trust and love is coming soon. 📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes This episode is sponsored by Goalie Ashwagandha Gummies and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App — your partners in nervous system support and trust in yourself. Connect with Nyomi • Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast (https://instagram.com/theseasonofsellovepodcast) • Facebook: theseasonofselflove (https://facebook.com/theseasonofselflove) Elevate Me: Self Discovery App (https://studio.com/nyomi/elevate?a=season-user&c=Dle0QNTV) 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks (https://instagram.com/TheRealNyomiBanks) | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast (Https://instagram.com/theseasonofselflovepodcast) **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove (https://youtube.com/theseasonofselflove) for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi)   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above...

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"Calm Confidence Isn't Weakness — It's Power, with Katherine Chestnut"

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) You look fine. You're managing, holding it all together, showing up. But inside, you're running on empty. Here's the thing — that's not a willpower problem or a mindset problem. That's a nervous system problem. This week I'm joined by Katherine Chestnut, a mindfulness and nervous system expert who helps people who look fine on the outside but feel fried inside understand what's actually happening beneath the stress — and what to do about it. Katherine's work is grounded in breathwork, nervous system regulation, and practical wisdom — no fluff, just real tools for real life. We talk about what survival mode actually looks like when you're still functioning, why striving for perfection means we stop listening to our bodies, the difference between honoring rest and pushing through, and how calm confidence and power aren't opposites. Katherine also shares her own story with real vulnerability, and leaves us with one simple, practical action to start building calm confidence tomorrow morning. We talk about: • What survival mode actually looks like when you're still "managing" • Why perfectionism disconnects us from what our bodies are telling us • Honoring rest versus pushing through — a real example from a personal 30-day challenge • The exchange of energy, and why grounding yourself changes the room around you • One simple morning practice to start building calm confidence tomorrow • Why saying no to someone else is saying yes to yourself • Where to find Katherine's books, meditations, and teaching If you've been functioning on fumes while looking like you have it all together, this conversation gives you real language for what's happening — and a place to start. In This Episode • Guided meditation — "I can be both calm and powerful. I don't have to run on empty to stay unstoppable." • Meet Katherine Chestnut — mindfulness and nervous system expert, breathwork teacher • What survival mode actually looks like — when you're functioning but running on fumes • Perfectionism vs. listening to your body — honoring rest instead of pushing through • Calm confidence explained — why it's power, not weakness, and how energy exchange works • One practical action — feet on the floor, one breath, "what do I need today?" • Saying no as self-love — why declining is a way of listening to your body • Katherine's work — four books, nearly 200 meditations on Insight Timer, and weekly YouTube videos • Closing thoughts — "Our natural state is joy" About Katherine Chestnut Katherine Chestnut is a mindfulness and nervous system expert whose work centers breathwork, nervous system regulation, and practical, no-fluff tools for real life. She's the author of four books, has released nearly 200 meditations on Insight Timer, and shares regular teaching videos on YouTube. • Insight Timer: search Katherine Chestnut for her full meditation library • YouTube: weekly long-form teaching videos and live sessions •  https://katharinechestnut.com/mindfulness-quiz/ Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for behind-the-scenes content and Flashback Fridays 📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes Connect with Nyomi • Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast (https://instagram.com/theseasonofsellovepodcast) • Facebook: theseasonofselflove (https://facebook.com/theseasonofselflove) Tags / Keywords Elevate Me: Self Discovery App (https://studio.com/nyomi/elevate?a=season-user&c=Dle0QNTV) 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies (https://go.goli.com/AskNyomi) Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! Bodyotics Intimate Wellness (https://bodyotics.sjv.io/e1oqbZ) Body-safe pelvic floor & intimate care products for every stage of your journey. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks (https://instagram.com/TheRealNyomiBanks) | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast (Https://instagram.com/theseasonofselflovepodcast) **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove (https://youtube.com/theseasonofselflove) for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body s...

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Control vs. Surrender: When Divine Timing Is Better Than Your Plan

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) This week was a lot — fresh off New York Fashion Week, deep in chocolate tempering trial and error, a movie release date looming, and fear creeping in about all of it. Then I watched three people I love achieve dreams they'd worked toward for years, and it reminded me: time is divine. Not our timing — divine timing. In this episode, I'm teaching what happens when you stop trying to control the outcome and start trusting the timing. I get honest about trying to force my chocolate line, my movie release, and my licensing to move on my schedule — and what that control actually cost me: blocked creativity, anxiety, broken trust, exhaustion, and missed signs (including a migraine that took me out for days). I share what I witnessed watching two friends make history hosting a Caribbean-centered show at New York Fashion Week, and another friend finally become a mother after years of difficulty — all reminders that what's meant for you arrives in its own time. I close with exercises to help you find where you're gripping control, and Wednesday, Catherine Chestnut joins me to teach exactly how to put surrender into practice. We talk about: • Why control is an illusion — you can only control your effort, not the timing • What trying to force outcomes actually costs: blocked creativity, anxiety, broken trust, exhaustion, missed signs • What watching three people's dreams come true this week taught her about divine timing • The connection to this month's Day 8 manifestation countdown theme: release • Separating "your part" (showing up, doing the work, staying ready) from "God's part" (the timing, the outcome, the miracles) • Exercises: naming what you're trying to force, asking how that control is working for you, and committing to your part while releasing the rest • A preview of Wednesday's guest, Catherine Chestnut, who will teach how to put surrender into real practice If you've been forcing a timeline, a business outcome, or an answer that isn't ready to come yet, this episode is the permission to do your part — and release the rest. In This Episode • Grounding practice — "Your job is to do the work. God's job is the timing." • What this week taught her — New York Fashion Week, chocolate tempering, and a looming movie release • Control is an illusion — what forcing outcomes actually costs • Watching three dreams come true — a history-making fashion show and a long-awaited motherhood journey • Manifestation countdown, Day 8: Release — "I release the version of me that survived beautifully, but was never meant to live forever" • Exercise 1: Where are you trying to control? • Exercise 2: Your part vs. God's part • Coming Wednesday — Catherine Chestnut teaches how to put surrender into practice • Closing affirmations — "I do my part with excellence. I trust divine timing more than my timeline." Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for behind-the-scenes content and Flashback Fridays 📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes This episode is sponsored by Goalie Ashwagandha Gummies and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App — your partners in nervous system support and divine timing. Connect with Nyomi • Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast (https://instagram.com/theseasonofsellovepodcast) • Facebook: theseasonofselflove (https://facebook.com/theseasonofselflove) Tags / Keywords divine timing, control vs surrender, faith vs fear, letting go, manifestation, self-love podcast, mindset Monday, trusting the process, New York Fashion Week, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, personal growth, releasing control, patience and faith Elevate Me: Self Discovery App (https://studio.com/nyomi/elevate?a=season-user&c=Dle0QNTV) 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies (https://go.goli.com/AskNyomi) Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks (https://instagram.com/TheRealNyomiBanks) | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast (Https://instagram.com/theseasonofselflovepodcast) **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove (https://youtube.com/theseasonofselflove) for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-D...

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Unlearning Fear: How to Rebuild Trust in Yourself (With Creative Coach Alexandra Beller)

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) Monday, we talked about rebuilding self-trust after betrayal, trauma, or burnout. Today, my guest shows us what that actually looks like in practice. Alexandra Beller — dancer, choreographer, educator, and author of the upcoming book The Anatomy of Art — has spent decades helping artists and educators break free from old fear patterns and rebuild trust in themselves. In this conversation, she models this month's work in real time: the grief hidden inside every choice, the fear of "am I doing this right," and why the path back to trusting yourself has nothing to do with being the best or the most certain person in the room. If Monday gave you the teaching on rebuilding self-trust, this is what it looks like lived out — through an artist's relationship with fear, doubt, and her own creative voice. This conversation isn't just for dancers or choreographers — it's for anyone learning to trust themselves again after fear or old patterns have taken the wheel. We talk about: • Why every creative choice carries a small grief for the possibilities not chosen — and what that has to do with fear of the unknown • Using neutral, curiosity-centered feedback (inspired by Liz Lerman's Critical Response Process) to rebuild trust instead of triggering doubt • Why needing to be the "best" or most certain in the room is actually a fear pattern — and what Alexandra unlearned about it • How non-artists can apply the same principles of unlearning fear and rebuilding trust to everyday life • A rapid-fire lightning round on creative habits, joy, and what authenticity really means • Reclaimed & Unashamed: what Alexandra wants to reclaim, and what she's letting go of shame around Alexandra's book, The Anatomy of Art, is available for preorder now and releases in August. In This Episode • Guided meditation — "I trust my creative voice. I release perfection. I create from truth." • Continuing Monday's teaching — rebuilding self-trust after betrayal, trauma, or burnout • Meet Alexandra Beller — decades of work helping artists unlearn fear and rebuild trust in themselves • The grief inside every creative choice — infinite possibilities, one decision, and the fear underneath • Neutral, curiosity-centered feedback — rebuilding trust instead of triggering doubt • Being witnessed, not led — unlearning the need to be the best or most certain in the room • Applying "unlearning fear" beyond art — noticing the habitual givens in everyday life • Lightning round — a creative habit unlearned, a joy practice, and what authenticity means • Reclaimed & Unashamed — Alexandra's answer to the show's signature closing question About Alexandra Beller Alexandra Beller is a performer, educator, and author whose upcoming book, The Anatomy of Art, blends poetic insight with practical tools for creative process. She has spent decades working with artists and educators to help them break free from old patterns and create more bravely and authentically. • Website: alexandrabellerdances.org (https://alexandrabellerdances.org) • Book: The Anatomy of Art — theanatomyofart.com (https://theanatomyofart.com) — available for preorder, releasing in August Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for behind-the-scenes content and Flashback Fridays 💬 Loved this conversation? Share it with someone who needs to hear it, leave a review, and connect with Alexandra directly 📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Send a message on Instagram — I love hearing from you Connect with Nyomi • Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast (https://instagram.com/theseasonofsellovepodcast) • Facebook: theseasonofselflove (https://facebook.com/theseasonofselflove) Tags / Keywords faith vs fear, rebuilding self-trust, unlearning fear, Alexandra Beller, creative process, dance and choreography, trusting yourself, artist interview, self-love podcast, authenticity in art, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, guest interview, The Anatomy of Art Elevate Me: Self Discovery App (https://studio.com/nyomi/elevate?a=season-user&c=Dle0QNTV) 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies (https://go.goli.com/AskNyomi) Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! Bodyotics Intimate Wellness (https://bodyotics.sjv.io/e1oqbZ) Body-safe pelvic floor & intimate care products for every stage of your journey. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks ...

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X9aCEDow3LQ