The Most Expensive Thing I'm Wearing? MY BRAIN! 🧠👑 #Shorts

They asked me what’s the most expensive thing I’m wearing. My answer? MY BRAIN! 🧠👑 True luxury isn’t defined by designer labels or expensive clothing. It’s found in the knowledge we acquire, the wisdom we develop, and the experiences that shape our lives. There’s nothing wrong with looking good, but never forget the value of what you carry within. ✨ Invest in your mind. Honor your growth. Know your worth. With Love & Light, Nyomi Banks 💋 The Self Love Specialist #NyomiBanks #ThursdaysThoughts #SelfLove #KnowYourWorth #Shorts

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The Art of Becoming 👑 | I Didn’t Come This Far to Stop Climbing! #Shorts

✨ THE ART OF BECOMING | #ThursdaysThoughts The first step is always the hardest, but every step has something to teach us. Some steps require courage. Others require faith, patience, and the willingness to keep going even when the journey gets uncomfortable. Becoming isn’t about leaving your past behind. It’s about embracing everything you’ve experienced and recognizing how every lesson has contributed to your growth. “Becoming isn’t about reaching the top. It’s about who you become with every step you take.” And baby, I’m still climbing! 👑❤️ 🎬 Creative direction & voiceover: Nyomi Banks 🎵 Original music: Sunday Mood — Created with Suno 💜 Subscribe to Nyomi’s World for more cinematic storytelling, self-love inspiration, and real conversations. What’s one lesson your journey has taught you? Share it below! #NyomiBanks #TheArtOfBecoming #ThursdaysThoughts #SelfLove #KeepClimbing #Shorts

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You're Not Broken, You're Depleted: The Primal Five with Dr. Matthew Campbell

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) What if you're not broken? What if you're just depleted? On this Wisdom Wednesday, Nyomi Banks sits down with psychologist Dr. Matthew Campbell, PhD, creator of the Primal Five framework, to talk about the five basic needs modern life has quietly stripped away from almost all of us, and why fixing yourself might be the wrong goal entirely. Our world has changed, but our bodies have not. In more than 20 years of practice, Dr. Campbell kept seeing the same thing: people working hard on their pain while the fundamentals that give them capacity came last. Together, Nyomi and Dr. Campbell talk about what depletion really feels like day to day, why the idea of "earning" rest is the trap, and how to begin with one small shift instead of chasing perfection. In this episode: • The Primal Five: sunlight, sleep, movement, meaningful connection, and consumption (what you eat and what you feed your mind) • The signs of depletion before burnout: always tired, caffeine all day, irritability, isolating, everything feeling effortful • Why meaningful connection is the most overlooked need, and what it means when "the person is the end" • Resting because your body needs it vs. resting because you think you earned it • One easy place to start: take your morning coffee or tea outside for 15 to 30 minutes of sunlight Connect with Dr. Matthew Campbell Free capacity quiz, the Our Primal Five workbook and app: ourprimalfive.com (https://www.ourprimal5.com/) Love yourself first so you can love others well. • Continue your self-discovery with the Elevate Me app: elevatemenyomi.com • Free Mindset Monday worksheet every week: substack.com/@theseasonofselflove (http://substack.com/@theseasonofselflove) • Watch on YouTube: @TheSeasonofSelfLove • Instagram & TikTok: @theseasonofselflovepodcast • Facebook: theseasonofselflove • Website: theseasonofselflove.com Elevate Me: Self Discovery App (https://studio.com/nyomi/elevate?a=season-user&c=Dle0QNTV) 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies (https://go.goli.com/AskNyomi) Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks (https://instagram.com/TheRealNyomiBanks) | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast (Https://instagram.com/theseasonofselflovepodcast) **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove (https://youtube.com/theseasonofselflove) for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi)   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

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"I Know Better, So I Do Better": Emotional Intelligence in Action (With Dr. Will Washington)

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) Understanding something intellectually is one thing. Catching yourself before you react the old way is where the real work shows. Dr. Will Washington is back on The Season of Self Love! In this Mindset Monday conversation, we pick up where we left off on emotional intelligence and ask what actually happens in the gap between feeling an old impulse and choosing to respond differently. Dr. Will, a licensed therapist, speaker, and longtime friend of the show, breaks down the survival instincts behind that moment, the idea that we each have a biological age, an emotional age, and a spiritual age (and that it matters which one is speaking up), and why emotional intelligence is about awareness, not just articulation. We talk about "rupture and repair," how to set boundaries as "if-then" statements instead of waiting for people to guess your triggers, why consideration is a love language, and why attachment and connection are not the same thing. Along the way, you'll hear both of us get real about what it looks like when the unhealed version of us shows up, and how to honor that moment without being run by it. We talk about: • What's happening in the gap between an old impulse and a new choice • Biological age, emotional age, and spiritual age: which one is speaking up in this moment? • Why emotional intelligence is a spectrum of awareness, and how it differs from emotional articulation • Why caregivers (and anyone who loves someone through a hard season) often write themselves out of their own story • How to tell when something is "heavy," and listening to what your body is telling you • Rupture and repair: owning your part, and deciding together whether to continue or let a lesson be a lesson • Why triggers are often unresolved work and not proof that someone caused harm • Boundaries as "if-then" statements: it's not other people's job to know your triggers, it's yours • Consideration as a love language • Attachment vs. connection • Why delivery matters, and sharing space for repair when it doesn't land • Healing as a lifestyle, not a destination: "Heal always" If you've ever done the work, understood the pattern, and still felt the old version of you rise up, this episode is about what to do in that exact moment. A Gentle Invitation From This Episode This week, you're invited to notice one moment when you feel the old impulse rising. Pause. You don't have to do it perfectly. Just notice it and catch it before it catches you. In This Episode • Welcome back, Dr. Will — what he's been working on, including a talk at Oxford on mind and music and a men's group called Brothers Healing Brothers in Cleveland • Guided meditation — "I can pause. I can breathe. I can choose." • The gap between impulse and choice — survival instincts and what feels unsafe • Which age is speaking? — biological, emotional, and spiritual • Awareness vs. articulation — emotional intelligence in action • When your body says "this is heavy" • "I know better, so I do better" — and why it isn't about thinking you're better than anyone • Rupture and repair — what they are and how to do them • Honoring your peace — sometimes you have to disrupt the peace to honor your peace • Boundaries as "if-then" statements — and consideration as a love language • Triggers and blind spots — when it's about unresolved work • Attachment vs. connection • Delivery, harm, and repair • Closing reflection — the pause is where your power lives • Dr. Will's closing words — "Be kind to yourself and heal always." About Dr. Will Washington Dr. Will Washington is a licensed therapist with nearly 15 years of experience, a speaker, and the voice behind the "Heal Always" philosophy that has shaped much of this show. He recently spoke at Oxford University on mind and music (using music in therapeutic healing) and leads "Brothers Healing Brothers," experiential groups for men in the Cleveland area. His work with the Washington Wellness Institute focuses on modernizing how we take mental illness into holistic wellness and making healing a lifestyle. He's also part of a live-streamed show with another therapist on his YouTube channel. • Washington Wellness Institute: sign up for a free 15-minute consultation • YouTube: his live-streamed show (link to be added) Resources & Links 🧘 Washington Wellness Institute — free 15-minute consultation with Dr. Will Washington https://www.youtube.com/@Wash_Wellness 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 📝 The Season of Self Love on Substack: substack.com/@theseasonofselflove (https://substack.com/@theseasonofselflove) 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) ...

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Boundaries Start With Internal Safety: Stop Over-Giving and Learn to Have Your Own Back (With Bar...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) What if the thing that finally changes your boundaries isn't another tool or another insight, but learning to feel safe inside your own life? This week on Wisdom Wednesday, I'm joined by Barb Nangle, a boundaries coach, speaker, author, and host of the Fragmented to Whole podcast. After nearly 40 years of therapy and personal development, Barb entered 12-step recovery at 52 and discovered that her real issue was never a lack of insight. It was a lack of internal safety. She helps professional women stop over-giving and start building the internal system that makes real boundaries possible. We talk about why boundaries are the antidote to codependency, what "internal safety" actually means (hint: it isn't feeling calm all the time), and how to tell the difference between the discomfort of dysfunction and the discomfort of growth. We also get into why guilt shows up when you set a boundary, why "being the helper" can become an identity, and one small thing you can try today to start building internal safety, no one else's cooperation required. We talk about: • What internal safety is, and what it isn't: not constant calm, but not letting someone else's upset stop you from holding your boundary • Boundaries as the antidote to codependency • The discomfort of dysfunction (familiar and draining) vs. the discomfort of growth (new, temporary, and healing) • Why guilt after setting a boundary is proportional to how much you've been abandoning yourself • How "helper, fixer, rescuer" can become an identity, and why stepping out of that role feels like breaking the rules • Why we look for safety in other people's approval, and why the real path to safety is internal • Telling yourself the truth when someone's upset with you: "I'm not a bad person. I haven't done anything wrong. I'm not in trouble." • Becoming emotionally available to yourself first, and how that changed the way Barb relates to others • A small step you can try today: boundaries with your own thoughts, and "changing the channel" • Collecting evidence that you can do the new thing and be okay If you're an over-giver, a people pleaser, or someone who feels guilty every time you say no, this conversation offers a gentler way in. In This Episode • Guided meditation — "You are allowed to feel safe inside your own life." • Meet Barb Nangle — boundaries coach, speaker, author, and podcast host • What changed after 40 years of personal development — recovery, codependency, and a new view of boundaries • Internal safety explained — and what it isn't • Two kinds of discomfort — dysfunction vs. growth • How Barb realized she was codependent • Why guilt shows up — and what it has to do with abandoning yourself • Why we feel the need to rescue — and where that begins • Telling yourself something different — the self-talk that builds internal safety • Becoming emotionally available to yourself — and how it changes relationships • One small thing to try today — boundaries with yourself and changing the channel • Where to find Barb — free Internal Safety Resource Pack and a holiday boundaries workshop About Barb Nangle Barb Nangle is a boundaries coach, speaker, and author who helps professional women stop over-giving and start building the internal system of safety that makes real boundaries possible. She is the host of the Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from Twelve Step Recovery podcast, with more than 375 episodes over 8+ years. • Website: higherpowercc.com (https://higherpowercc.com) • 🎁 Free Internal Safety Resource Pack (podcast episodes, articles, and worksheets): higherpowercc.com/pack (https://higherpowercc.com/pack) • 🎙️ Fragmented to Whole podcast: higherpowercc.com/podcast (https://higherpowercc.com/podcast) Upcoming Workshop: Holiday Boundaries Made Simple Barb is hosting a live, 90-minute workshop with exercises and a worksheet to help you go into the holiday season with limits you can honor: spending, travel, time, and help. • Date/time: Wednesday, November 11 at 5:00 PM Eastern • Cost: $97 • Details and registration: higherpowercc.com/holiday (https://higherpowercc.com/holiday) • A replay is typically offered; check the registration page for details. Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 📝 The Season of Self Love on Substack: substack.com/@theseasonofselflove (https://substack.com/@theseasonofselflove) 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is brought to you by Goalie and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App. Connect with...

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Emotional Intelligence: The Language Nobody Taught You (And How It Becomes Your Boundaries)

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) For years, I thought emotional intelligence meant managing your feelings: staying calm, staying in control. What I'm learning is almost the opposite. Emotional intelligence is understanding what you're feeling so deeply that you can make choices that honor both yourself and the people you love. In this Mindset Monday episode, I'm sitting down with you to talk about what that looks like in real life. I share a season of caregiving for a parent with dementia as one example of what changed when I stopped trying to fix or save someone and started learning to be present with them, and with myself. We talk about why nobody teaches us this language, why we're taught to suppress, push through, and "not feel too deeply," and how the feelings we try to manage often have something important to tell us: grief says something matters, frustration says we're trying to control what we can't, helplessness says we can't save someone but we can be with them. From there, we bridge to boundaries: the real kind, not walls or punishments, but the ability to say, "I hear you, and I also hear myself, and I'm not going to abandon myself to save you." We talk about: • What emotional intelligence actually is: feeling without judgment, understanding what the feeling is telling you, and choosing in a way that honors you and the people you care about • Why we're taught to control and suppress feelings, and why that's the opposite of emotional intelligence • What grief, frustration, and helplessness can be trying to tell you • Moving from trying to fix or save someone to protecting, being present, and prioritizing your own wellbeing • How using The Four Agreements as a daily anchor helped with communication and compassion • Why "managing someone else's emotions" leaves us exhausted and resentful • How emotional intelligence becomes the foundation for real boundaries • Staying grounded in the moment when someone challenges you: you don't have to argue to protect yourself • What self-love really is: not just affirmations and bubble baths, but understanding what you feel and choosing accordingly If you're exhausted from trying to make someone else okay so you can feel okay, this episode is for you. A Gentle Invitation From This Episode This week, you're invited to notice one relationship, whether it's a partner, a family member, or a friend. Where are you trying to manage their emotions instead of understanding your own? What are you feeling, and what is that feeling telling you? In This Episode • Opening — redefining emotional intelligence • Grounding practice — "You don't have to understand your feelings to honor them." • A real-life example — caregiving, frustration, and the shift from fixing to being present • What emotional intelligence actually is — and why nobody teaches it • Using the Four Agreements as an anchor — in communication, compassion, and not taking things personally • What grief, frustration, and helplessness are telling you • The bridge to boundaries — why managing other people's feelings leads to resentment • Choosing not to argue — grounding yourself in a challenging conversation • Real-life application — checking in with yourself before and during connection • What self-love really is • Closing affirmations — "I can feel deeply and still protect myself." • What's next — a worksheet on the new Substack, and a Wednesday conversation about boundaries Resources & Links 📝 Companion worksheet — available on The Season of Self Love Substack: substack.com/@theseasonofselflove (https://substack.com/@theseasonofselflove) 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is brought to you by Elevate Me Self-Discovery App. Connect with Nyomi • Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast (https://instagram.com/theseasonofsellovepodcast) • Facebook: theseasonofselflove (https://facebook.com/theseasonofselflove) Elevate Me: Self Discovery App (https://studio.com/nyomi/elevate?a=season-user&c=Dle0QNTV) 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies (https://go.goli.com/AskNyomi) Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks (https://instagram.com/TheRealNyomiBanks) | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast ...

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Healing Heartbreak and Betrayal in the Body: Why Understanding Isn't the Same as Healing (With Be...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) Understanding your wounds is not the same as healing them. You can know exactly why you keep going back to someone who isn't right for you and still feel powerless to stop. This week on Wisdom Wednesday, I'm joined by Ben Ufana, a neurosomatic breathwork facilitator and meditation teacher who has spent nearly a decade helping people heal from breakups, divorce, abandonment, rejection, and ghosting. Ben trained for 17 years in the internal martial arts, apprenticed with a traditional Kiowa medicine man, and has spent decades studying how the body holds what the mind can't always explain. He shares the story behind the breath-and-awareness practice he developed out of his own childhood and relational wounding, and walks us through how it works: bringing a person and the dynamic between you into your awareness, noticing where the emotion lives in your body, and breathing with it until it moves. We talk about why we can't work with what we aren't feeling, how numbing and suppressing keep us stuck in repeating patterns, why denying a painful feeling is a form of rejecting ourselves, and why this practice is a deep form of self-love. Ben also shares how these tools can be used in the middle of real life, with your eyes open, in conversation with someone you love. We talk about: • Why understanding a wound intellectually is important but not the same as healing it • How heartbreak often reaches back to much older wounds, and why we repeat the same relational patterns • The body as a place where grief, hurt, anger, and betrayal are stored • A guided look at Ben's practice: bring the person into awareness, notice the emotion, locate it in the body, and breathe into it • How emotions often intensify, shift, and move through a progression before they release • Why avoiding our emotions means rejecting parts of ourselves, and how feeling them is a form of honesty and self-love • Using the practice with your eyes open: in conversation, with a loved one, or even with a pet • A note on boundaries: respecting someone else's "no" when you're working with desire • Why body work, grounding practices, and skilled support can make this work safer and deeper • How stress and unprocessed emotion build up in the body, and why staying fluid keeps us growing This conversation is for anyone who has done the thinking, understood the pattern, and is ready to feel their way through it. If you are severely traumatized, Ben notes that working with a psychotherapist or experienced guide can help you build a strong enough foundation. In This Episode • Opening — understanding your wounds vs. healing them • Meet Ben Ufana — breathwork facilitator, meditation teacher, and lifelong student of how the body holds emotion • Ben's story — from a young fascination with Native American healing traditions, to apprenticing with a Kiowa medicine man, to developing his own practice from his own heartbreak • Why numbing keeps us stuck — and why "you can't heal what you don't feel" • The practice, step by step — person and dynamic in awareness, emotion, location in the body, breath • What to expect — emotions that intensify, move, and progress toward acceptance and letting go • Honesty and self-love — why feeling your authentic responses means being present with the parts of you that are hurting • Practicing in real life — with eyes open, in conversation, with loved ones • Patterns and reenactment — why we keep attracting the same relationships, and how healing shifts that over time • Support and tools — body work, Ayurveda, acupuncture, skilled healers, and internal martial arts • Stagnation and fluidity — how stress accumulates in the body and how practice keeps us growing • Where to find Ben About Ben Ufana Ben Ufana is a neurosomatic breathwork facilitator and meditation teacher with 17 years of training in the internal martial arts (Xinyi Quan, Bagua Zhang, Tai Chi, and Qigong) and an apprenticeship with a traditional Kiowa medicine man. His work focuses on helping people become present enough with themselves to digest hurt rather than only understand it, particularly after breakup, divorce, abandonment, rejection, and ghosting. • Website: benufana.com (https://benufana.com) (contact form at benufana.com/contact) • Also: teachmetomeditate.com, Heal My Heartache, and Breakup First Aid • Instagram and YouTube (long-form videos on healing and relationships) Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is brought...

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