Boundaries Start With Internal Safety: Stop Over-Giving and Learn to Have Your Own Back (With Bar...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) What if the thing that finally changes your boundaries isn't another tool or another insight, but learning to feel safe inside your own life? This week on Wisdom Wednesday, I'm joined by Barb Nangle, a boundaries coach, speaker, author, and host of the Fragmented to Whole podcast. After nearly 40 years of therapy and personal development, Barb entered 12-step recovery at 52 and discovered that her real issue was never a lack of insight. It was a lack of internal safety. She helps professional women stop over-giving and start building the internal system that makes real boundaries possible. We talk about why boundaries are the antidote to codependency, what "internal safety" actually means (hint: it isn't feeling calm all the time), and how to tell the difference between the discomfort of dysfunction and the discomfort of growth. We also get into why guilt shows up when you set a boundary, why "being the helper" can become an identity, and one small thing you can try today to start building internal safety, no one else's cooperation required. We talk about: • What internal safety is, and what it isn't: not constant calm, but not letting someone else's upset stop you from holding your boundary • Boundaries as the antidote to codependency • The discomfort of dysfunction (familiar and draining) vs. the discomfort of growth (new, temporary, and healing) • Why guilt after setting a boundary is proportional to how much you've been abandoning yourself • How "helper, fixer, rescuer" can become an identity, and why stepping out of that role feels like breaking the rules • Why we look for safety in other people's approval, and why the real path to safety is internal • Telling yourself the truth when someone's upset with you: "I'm not a bad person. I haven't done anything wrong. I'm not in trouble." • Becoming emotionally available to yourself first, and how that changed the way Barb relates to others • A small step you can try today: boundaries with your own thoughts, and "changing the channel" • Collecting evidence that you can do the new thing and be okay If you're an over-giver, a people pleaser, or someone who feels guilty every time you say no, this conversation offers a gentler way in. In This Episode • Guided meditation — "You are allowed to feel safe inside your own life." • Meet Barb Nangle — boundaries coach, speaker, author, and podcast host • What changed after 40 years of personal development — recovery, codependency, and a new view of boundaries • Internal safety explained — and what it isn't • Two kinds of discomfort — dysfunction vs. growth • How Barb realized she was codependent • Why guilt shows up — and what it has to do with abandoning yourself • Why we feel the need to rescue — and where that begins • Telling yourself something different — the self-talk that builds internal safety • Becoming emotionally available to yourself — and how it changes relationships • One small thing to try today — boundaries with yourself and changing the channel • Where to find Barb — free Internal Safety Resource Pack and a holiday boundaries workshop About Barb Nangle Barb Nangle is a boundaries coach, speaker, and author who helps professional women stop over-giving and start building the internal system of safety that makes real boundaries possible. She is the host of the Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from Twelve Step Recovery podcast, with more than 375 episodes over 8+ years. • Website: higherpowercc.com (https://higherpowercc.com) • 🎁 Free Internal Safety Resource Pack (podcast episodes, articles, and worksheets): higherpowercc.com/pack (https://higherpowercc.com/pack) • 🎙️ Fragmented to Whole podcast: higherpowercc.com/podcast (https://higherpowercc.com/podcast) Upcoming Workshop: Holiday Boundaries Made Simple Barb is hosting a live, 90-minute workshop with exercises and a worksheet to help you go into the holiday season with limits you can honor: spending, travel, time, and help. • Date/time: Wednesday, November 11 at 5:00 PM Eastern • Cost: $97 • Details and registration: higherpowercc.com/holiday (https://higherpowercc.com/holiday) • A replay is typically offered; check the registration page for details. Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 📝 The Season of Self Love on Substack: substack.com/@theseasonofselflove (https://substack.com/@theseasonofselflove) 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is brought to you by Goalie and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App. Connect with...

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Emotional Intelligence: The Language Nobody Taught You (And How It Becomes Your Boundaries)

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) For years, I thought emotional intelligence meant managing your feelings: staying calm, staying in control. What I'm learning is almost the opposite. Emotional intelligence is understanding what you're feeling so deeply that you can make choices that honor both yourself and the people you love. In this Mindset Monday episode, I'm sitting down with you to talk about what that looks like in real life. I share a season of caregiving for a parent with dementia as one example of what changed when I stopped trying to fix or save someone and started learning to be present with them, and with myself. We talk about why nobody teaches us this language, why we're taught to suppress, push through, and "not feel too deeply," and how the feelings we try to manage often have something important to tell us: grief says something matters, frustration says we're trying to control what we can't, helplessness says we can't save someone but we can be with them. From there, we bridge to boundaries: the real kind, not walls or punishments, but the ability to say, "I hear you, and I also hear myself, and I'm not going to abandon myself to save you." We talk about: • What emotional intelligence actually is: feeling without judgment, understanding what the feeling is telling you, and choosing in a way that honors you and the people you care about • Why we're taught to control and suppress feelings, and why that's the opposite of emotional intelligence • What grief, frustration, and helplessness can be trying to tell you • Moving from trying to fix or save someone to protecting, being present, and prioritizing your own wellbeing • How using The Four Agreements as a daily anchor helped with communication and compassion • Why "managing someone else's emotions" leaves us exhausted and resentful • How emotional intelligence becomes the foundation for real boundaries • Staying grounded in the moment when someone challenges you: you don't have to argue to protect yourself • What self-love really is: not just affirmations and bubble baths, but understanding what you feel and choosing accordingly If you're exhausted from trying to make someone else okay so you can feel okay, this episode is for you. A Gentle Invitation From This Episode This week, you're invited to notice one relationship, whether it's a partner, a family member, or a friend. Where are you trying to manage their emotions instead of understanding your own? What are you feeling, and what is that feeling telling you? In This Episode • Opening — redefining emotional intelligence • Grounding practice — "You don't have to understand your feelings to honor them." • A real-life example — caregiving, frustration, and the shift from fixing to being present • What emotional intelligence actually is — and why nobody teaches it • Using the Four Agreements as an anchor — in communication, compassion, and not taking things personally • What grief, frustration, and helplessness are telling you • The bridge to boundaries — why managing other people's feelings leads to resentment • Choosing not to argue — grounding yourself in a challenging conversation • Real-life application — checking in with yourself before and during connection • What self-love really is • Closing affirmations — "I can feel deeply and still protect myself." • What's next — a worksheet on the new Substack, and a Wednesday conversation about boundaries Resources & Links 📝 Companion worksheet — available on The Season of Self Love Substack: substack.com/@theseasonofselflove (https://substack.com/@theseasonofselflove) 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is brought to you by Elevate Me Self-Discovery App. Connect with Nyomi • Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast (https://instagram.com/theseasonofsellovepodcast) • Facebook: theseasonofselflove (https://facebook.com/theseasonofselflove) Elevate Me: Self Discovery App (https://studio.com/nyomi/elevate?a=season-user&c=Dle0QNTV) 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies (https://go.goli.com/AskNyomi) Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks (https://instagram.com/TheRealNyomiBanks) | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast ...

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Healing Heartbreak and Betrayal in the Body: Why Understanding Isn't the Same as Healing (With Be...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) Understanding your wounds is not the same as healing them. You can know exactly why you keep going back to someone who isn't right for you and still feel powerless to stop. This week on Wisdom Wednesday, I'm joined by Ben Ufana, a neurosomatic breathwork facilitator and meditation teacher who has spent nearly a decade helping people heal from breakups, divorce, abandonment, rejection, and ghosting. Ben trained for 17 years in the internal martial arts, apprenticed with a traditional Kiowa medicine man, and has spent decades studying how the body holds what the mind can't always explain. He shares the story behind the breath-and-awareness practice he developed out of his own childhood and relational wounding, and walks us through how it works: bringing a person and the dynamic between you into your awareness, noticing where the emotion lives in your body, and breathing with it until it moves. We talk about why we can't work with what we aren't feeling, how numbing and suppressing keep us stuck in repeating patterns, why denying a painful feeling is a form of rejecting ourselves, and why this practice is a deep form of self-love. Ben also shares how these tools can be used in the middle of real life, with your eyes open, in conversation with someone you love. We talk about: • Why understanding a wound intellectually is important but not the same as healing it • How heartbreak often reaches back to much older wounds, and why we repeat the same relational patterns • The body as a place where grief, hurt, anger, and betrayal are stored • A guided look at Ben's practice: bring the person into awareness, notice the emotion, locate it in the body, and breathe into it • How emotions often intensify, shift, and move through a progression before they release • Why avoiding our emotions means rejecting parts of ourselves, and how feeling them is a form of honesty and self-love • Using the practice with your eyes open: in conversation, with a loved one, or even with a pet • A note on boundaries: respecting someone else's "no" when you're working with desire • Why body work, grounding practices, and skilled support can make this work safer and deeper • How stress and unprocessed emotion build up in the body, and why staying fluid keeps us growing This conversation is for anyone who has done the thinking, understood the pattern, and is ready to feel their way through it. If you are severely traumatized, Ben notes that working with a psychotherapist or experienced guide can help you build a strong enough foundation. In This Episode • Opening — understanding your wounds vs. healing them • Meet Ben Ufana — breathwork facilitator, meditation teacher, and lifelong student of how the body holds emotion • Ben's story — from a young fascination with Native American healing traditions, to apprenticing with a Kiowa medicine man, to developing his own practice from his own heartbreak • Why numbing keeps us stuck — and why "you can't heal what you don't feel" • The practice, step by step — person and dynamic in awareness, emotion, location in the body, breath • What to expect — emotions that intensify, move, and progress toward acceptance and letting go • Honesty and self-love — why feeling your authentic responses means being present with the parts of you that are hurting • Practicing in real life — with eyes open, in conversation, with loved ones • Patterns and reenactment — why we keep attracting the same relationships, and how healing shifts that over time • Support and tools — body work, Ayurveda, acupuncture, skilled healers, and internal martial arts • Stagnation and fluidity — how stress accumulates in the body and how practice keeps us growing • Where to find Ben About Ben Ufana Ben Ufana is a neurosomatic breathwork facilitator and meditation teacher with 17 years of training in the internal martial arts (Xinyi Quan, Bagua Zhang, Tai Chi, and Qigong) and an apprenticeship with a traditional Kiowa medicine man. His work focuses on helping people become present enough with themselves to digest hurt rather than only understand it, particularly after breakup, divorce, abandonment, rejection, and ghosting. • Website: benufana.com (https://benufana.com) (contact form at benufana.com/contact) • Also: teachmetomeditate.com, Heal My Heartache, and Breakup First Aid • Instagram and YouTube (long-form videos on healing and relationships) Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is brought...

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Direction Over Expansion: Building UP, Not OUT (A Pivot Isn't a Setback)

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) After my 54th birthday, I made a decision that looked like stepping back. I pushed Ask Nyomi: Bridging the Gap to 2027. Not because I don't want to do it, but because I was being pulled in too many directions and running on desperation instead of direction. In this Mindset Monday episode, I'm sitting down with you to talk about the difference between moving out and moving up. A short conversation with Dr. Will Washington shifted my whole perspective: don't look outside for opportunities to strengthen your worth. Build up what you already have. I share what it looked like to come home from the Revival in Atlanta feeling more at home than I had in a long time, then open my calendar to a full slate of good, worthy things, and what changed when I stopped trying to do them all at once. We talk about why a pivot is a strategy and not a setback, why frantic energy is something people can feel, and why completion doesn't mean doing everything. It means doing what completes the cycle. I also share what's next for Season 6 and a new Substack with downloadable Mindset Monday actions. We talk about: • Why limiting your direction is not the same as limiting your power • Moving out (scattered, frantic, trying to prove your value) vs. moving up (focused, strategic, building mastery) • Why a pivot can be the strategy, not a step backward: the goal hasn't changed, only the strategy • How desperation and direction feel different, to you and to the people around you • Why doing less with your whole self can be the power move • Why I'm pouring into The Season of Self Love this season • A new Substack with downloadable Mindset Monday prompts and actions If your calendar is full of good things and you're feeling pulled in every direction, this one is for you. A Gentle Invitation From This Episode This week, you're invited to ask yourself: Where am I being called to pivot? Where am I forcing my way through when I could change position and find another opening? And what would it look like to build up instead of out? In This Episode • Opening — turning 54, the number 9, and a year of completion • Grounding practice — "You can be ambitious and strategic. Your direction is a power move." • The Revival in Atlanta — feeling at home, then looking at a full calendar • A conversation with Dr. Will — "Build up in what you have, not out." • Moving out vs. moving up • Why Ask Nyomi: Bridging the Gap is moving to 2027 — same goal, new strategy • Desperation vs. direction — and the energy people can feel • Closing affirmations — "A pivot is not a setback. It's the strategy." • What's next — the new Substack, Season 6 focus, and why self-love comes first • Reminder — Souls premieres October 22 on Tubi Resources & Links 🎬 Souls premieres October 22 on Tubi 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is brought to you by Elevate Me Self-Discovery App and Goalie. Connect with Nyomi • Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast (https://instagram.com/theseasonofsellovepodcast) • Facebook: theseasonofselflove (https://facebook.com/theseasonofselflove) Elevate Me: Self Discovery App (https://studio.com/nyomi/elevate?a=season-user&c=Dle0QNTV) 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks (https://instagram.com/TheRealNyomiBanks) | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast (Https://instagram.com/theseasonofselflovepodcast) **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove (https://youtube.com/theseasonofselflove) for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi)   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others ...

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Reclaiming Your Story: The Real Reason Manifestation Isn't Working (With Kelsey Aida)

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) What if the real reason manifestation isn't working has nothing to do with doing it wrong, and everything to do with a part of you that doesn't feel safe receiving what you're asking for? This week, I'm joined by Kelsey Aida, energetic alignment coach, best-selling author, and co-host of the High Vibing It podcast. Kelsey focuses on the missing piece in manifestation that most people don't talk about: resistance, and how self-love is often the real doorway to change. We talk about reclaiming your story after an identity-shaking loss (Kelsey's path began with a dance-ending injury and a long dark night of the soul), why the "newness" of who you're becoming can feel dangerous to your subconscious, and why self-sabotage is really misguided self-love. We also get into feeling your feelings in your body instead of thinking about them, the difference between toxic positivity and true alignment, how to tell intuition from fear, and what it looks like to love the parts of yourself you've been rejecting. I even had a healing moment live on air, and I think you might too. We talk about: • What "reclaiming your story" means in the context of manifestation and alignment • How contrast, loss, and rock-bottom moments can become a stepping-off point instead of proof you're not enough • Why the fear of the unknown is often really a fear of not belonging, and why "it's safe to be me" is a powerful reminder • Resistance explained without shame: the "but" attached to what you want, and how to listen for it • Why self-sabotage is misguided self-love, and how to have a loving conversation with the part of you that's scared • Feeling your feelings somatically (in the body) instead of thinking about them, and letting emotion move like a wave • Alignment vs. toxic positivity: why being authentic matters more than being positive all the time • What self-love looks like when you're anxious or feeling unworthy: making your own well-being important to you • Getting curious about anxiety, sadness, and other parts of you you've rejected, and thanking them for trying to protect you • Intuition vs. fear: "Fear screams, intuition whispers" • A deathbed "future pacing" exercise for big decisions If you've ever wanted something good and found yourself pulling away right when it arrived, this conversation offers a gentler way to understand it. In This Episode • 60-second guided meditation — "I am safe to receive. I release resistance." • Meet Kelsey Aida — energetic alignment coach, author, and podcast co-host • Reclaiming the desires of your heart — and your highest timeline • When an identity is taken away — Kelsey's injury, her dark night of the soul, and who you are without the labels • Why newness feels dangerous — the subconscious, survival, and belonging • What resistance really is — and how to hear it without shame • Self-sabotage as misguided self-love — including a dating example and the "juice box" approach to your scared parts • Feeling vs. thinking about feelings — the somatic practice, and a live healing moment • Alignment vs. toxic positivity • Self-love as the foundation of manifestation — and loving the parts you've disowned • Intuition vs. fear — and the deathbed future-pacing exercise • Where to find Kelsey — plus a promise of a Part 2 • Closing reflection — where are you in resistance, and what is it trying to protect you from? About Kelsey Aida Kelsey Aida is an energetic alignment coach, best-selling author, and co-host of the High Vibing It podcast. Her work focuses on resistance, the often-overlooked piece of manifestation, and on self-love as the doorway to change. • Website: KelseyAida.com (https://kelseyaida.com) • New book: The Manifesting Fix, launching December 1 (pre-orders available at KelseyAida.com) • Podcast: High Vibing It • Substack: Aligned and Abundant A Gentle Invitation From This Episode This week, you're invited to ask yourself: Where am I in resistance, and what is that resistance trying to protect me from? Then name it, soothe your nervous system, and take one aligned action. Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content 💬 Loved this conversation? Share it with someone who needs to hear it, leave a review, and send me a message on Instagram to tell me what it brought up for you. Connect with Nyomi • Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast (https://instagram.com/theseasonofsellovepodcast) • Facebook: theseasonofselflove (https://facebook.com/...

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What's Really Blocking Your Manifestation? It's Not What You Think

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) You've visualized it, affirmed it, and put it on the vision board. You're asking for the relationship, but you're still single. You're declaring abundance, but you feel blocked. And you're wondering what you're doing wrong. In this Mindset Monday episode, I'm sitting down with you to talk about the part of manifestation nobody puts in the course: resistance. What if it isn't a personal failure or proof that you're not believing hard enough? What if it's a part of you that doesn't feel safe receiving yet, and is trying to protect you? I share how I used to shame myself for "blocking" my own progress, how a big fear about taxes once held me back when I was making more money, and what changed when I got curious instead of critical. We also talk about the big "but" that hides inside what we say we want, and why you don't have to become someone else to receive it. You just have to trust who you already are. We talk about: • Why manifestation can stall even when you're doing "everything right" • Resistance as protection, not a flaw: a part of you asking, "Are we safe? Are we ready?" • Why shaming yourself for being "in your own way" only makes it heavier • The big "but" attached to what you want: money, but...; relationship, but...; visibility, but... • What happens when half of you moves forward and the other half holds back • Getting curious: what is this resistance protecting me from? • Day 29 of the birthday manifestation countdown: "I manifest complete trust in the person I have become." If you've been asking for something while quietly hoping it doesn't happen, this one is for you. A Gentle Invitation From This Episode This week, you're invited to notice if there's something you're asking for while also kind of hoping it doesn't happen. No fixing, no judging. Just get curious about what that part of you is trying to protect. In This Episode • Opening — doing all the manifesting work and still feeling blocked • Grounding practice — "You are safe to receive." • What nobody tells you in the manifestation courses • Sponsor break — Washington Wellness Institute • Resistance reframed — a part of you trying to protect you, not an enemy • The cost of shaming it — and what changes when you get curious • Examples of resistance — taxes, being truly seen, criticism and visibility • The big "but" — the information hiding inside what you want • Manifestation countdown, Day 29 — "I manifest complete trust in the person I have become." • Closing affirmations — "I am not becoming someone else. I am becoming more of myself." • Coming Wednesday — guest Kelsey Aida on trusting that version of yourself even when resistance shows up Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 🧘 Washington Wellness Institute — Sign up for a free 15-minute consultation with Dr. Will Washington on modernizing mental wellness into a holistic lifestyle 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is sponsored by Goalie Ashwagandha Gummies and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App. Connect with Nyomi • Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast (https://instagram.com/theseasonofsellovepodcast) • Facebook: theseasonofselflove (https://facebook.com/theseasonofselflove) Elevate Me: Self Discovery App (https://studio.com/nyomi/elevate?a=season-user&c=Dle0QNTV) 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks (https://instagram.com/TheRealNyomiBanks) | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast (Https://instagram.com/theseasonofselflovepodcast) **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove (https://youtube.com/theseasonofselflove) for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi)   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one anot...

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What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? Healing Through Heartbreak and Loss (With Jonathon Aslay)

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) You know how to love other people. You know how to show up for everyone else. But somewhere along the way, loving yourself became the hardest relationship of all. That's not a character flaw. Nobody ever taught you how. This week, I'm kicking off Season 6 Wisdom Wednesdays with Jonathon Aslay, author of What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? and a dating and relationship coach on a mission to help both men and women fully love themselves. After a divorce, a lost career, and the loss of his 19-year-old son, Connor, in 2018, Jonathon's own grief sent him on a soul-searching journey that changed how he coaches, writes, and lives. We talk about what self-love really means, nurturing the emotional "six-year-old" inside all of us, the difference between self-love and selfishness, why dating has become a form of entertainment, how insecure attachment pulls us away from our own sovereignty, and why he believes gratitude is the highest form of love. He also shares one real action you can take today, especially if you're in the middle of heartbreak or self-doubt. We talk about: • What self-love is — and the one thing Jonathon would add to his book: nurturing your emotional six-year-old • How divorce, loss, and a long season of depression became the starting point for his healing work • Grieving with love instead of suffering, and why gratitude and acceptance became his foundation • Taking personal ownership of your life instead of living from victim consciousness • The line between self-love and selfishness • Why so few of us can say why we want a relationship or what its purpose is • Insecure attachment, and how attaching to someone in an unhealthy way can pull you away from your own sovereignty • Loving on yourself versus fully loving yourself — and why growth is enough • One action to start today: a fear and limiting-beliefs inventory, with forgiveness • Reclaimed & Unashamed: reclaiming his spirituality If you're in the middle of heartbreak, loss, or self-doubt and aren't sure where to start, this conversation offers a gentle place to begin. In This Episode • Guided meditation — "You don't have to earn the love you already carry inside of you." • Meet Jonathon Aslay — author, coach, and father on a mission to help people love themselves • Self-love, evolving — what Jonathon would add to his 2019 book • From divorce and depression to emotional scaffolding — the personal development journey that came before loss • What is love, really? — the questions behind the book • Personal responsibility vs. victim consciousness • Favorite chapters — "Speak your truth, do it with kindness" and "If it's sincere and from the heart, you can't say the wrong thing to the right person" • Self-love vs. selfishness • The purpose of relationships today — and why dating has become entertainment • Attachment and sovereignty • Grieving with love — choosing gratitude and acceptance after losing his son • One action to start today — writing out your fears, insecurities, and limiting beliefs, forgiving yourself, and asking "Gus" (God, Universe, Spirit) how to heal • Reclaimed & Unashamed — Jonathon's answer • Closing thoughts — "You are worthy of love, starting with your own." About Jonathon Aslay Jonathon Aslay is the author of What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? (2019) and a dating and relationship coach who works with both men and women. After losing his 19-year-old son, Connor, in a 2018 accident, his own grief reshaped how he coaches, writes, and lives. Search his name online to find his YouTube channel, website, and social media; his book is available on Amazon. Books mentioned in this episode: What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? by Jonathon Aslay, Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer, and The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 🎬 Souls premieres October 22 on Tubi 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is sponsored by Goalie and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App. Connect with Nyomi • Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast (https://instagram.com/theseasonofsellovepodcast) • Facebook: theseasonofselflove (https://facebook.com/theseasonofselflove) Tags / Keywords self-love, Jonathon Aslay, What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway, grief and healing, heartbreak, relationship coaching, inner child, attachment styles, dating and relationships, gratitude, wisdom Wednesday, season 6, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, guest interview, self-awarene...

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