The Joy Audit: Reclaiming Pleasure Without Guilt (Action Wednesday)

When was the last time you did something just because it brought you joy? Not because it was productive. Not because it served a purpose. Just because it felt good.  In this Action Wednesday episode, Nyomi walks you through The Joy Audit—practical exercises to identify where you're blocking joy, release guilt, practice both/and thinking, and add one joyful practice to your daily life. This is about reclaiming pleasure without justification. Bring your journal and get ready to add joy back in. In This Episode: • Exercise 1: The Joy Audit (5 questions to identify where joy is blocked) • Exercise 2: The Guilt Release (reframing each guilt into truth) • Exercise 3: The Both/And List (claiming all your dreams) • Exercise 4: Choosing Your Joyful Practice (one daily practice for pure pleasure) • Nyomi's real joyful practices (altar time, music on set, green bathroom, laughter, podcasting) • Addressing resistance: "I don't have time" and "What if people judge me?" • The 7-Day Joy ChallengeThe 5 Joy Audit Questions: 1. What brings you joy that you've been apologizing for or minimizing? 2. Where are you feeling guilty about feeling good? 3. What dreams or callings have you been told you need to choose between? 4. What joyful practices have you cut out because they seem "unproductive"? 5. Who are you worried will judge you for pursuing your joy?The Guilt Release Formula: "I release the guilt about [thing]. The truth is [reframe]." Both/And Examples: • I can have BOTH a successful career AND a fulfilling personal life • I can have BOTH creative fulfillment AND financial stability • I can have BOTH rest AND productivityYour Joyful Practice: "Every day this week, I will [specific joyful practice] at [specific time]." Examples of Joyful Practices:  Dance to one song every morning, take a 10-minute bath, read fiction for 15 minutes, light a candle and journal, cook one beautiful meal, paint or create, sing, walk outside, watch the sunset, sit in silence with coffee, stretch, listen to music The Challenge: Do your joyful practice every day for 7 days. Notice what shifts. Share Your Practice: Instagram: Tag or DM @AskNyomi with "This week, my joyful practice is..."  Next Episode: Mindset Monday - Week 4: Unashamed Expansion (Being "Too Much" Boldly) Connect with Nyomi: • Website: AskNyomi.com • Instagram: @AskNyomi @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast • Tune in: Ask Nyomi Bridging the Gap - ThursdaysEpisode Hashtags: #ActionWednesday #SeasonOfSelfLove #UnashamedJoy #JoyAudit #PleasureWithoutGuilt #JoyForJoysSake #AddJoy #DailyJoy Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support (https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss) . "Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others. If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls. Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovepodcast.com (http://theseasonofselflovepodcast.com) for resources and our downloadable workbook. Want to be a guest on The Season of Self Love? Send Nyomi Banks a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/171967138753618818df2d7f3 Until Monday – keep choosing YOU. This is your girl, the goddess Nyomi Banks. Stay in your season."

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GDaf9JJZ2RA

Unashamed Joy: When Your Dreams Become Your Reality

What if you didn't have to choose between your dreams? What if you could pursue all of them—unapologetically? Fresh off a joy-filled production week, Nyomi shares the story of bringing back the original Chicago cast 10 years later, working 15-hour days fueled by gratitude, and almost getting lost in the "Hollywood set" mindset before being reminded of her other calling by Dr. Will's text. This is about having multiple dreams. Multiple callings. Multiple joys. And not apologizing for any of it. In This Episode: • Full circle moments: Original cast returning after 10+ years • The Four Agreements booklet setting the tone on set • Working 15-hour days guided by joy • Two dreams running simultaneously: production + coaching • Dr. Will's Saturday text as a loving reminder • Almost getting lost in one dream and forgetting the other • The tension: Which joy do I choose? • Why your joy doesn't need justification • The guilt we carry about feeling good • "Making my dream a reality"—Nyomi's childhood motto • Gratitude as the foundation of joy • Both/and, not either/or • 5 reflection questions on unashamed joyKey Takeaway: You don't have to choose between your dreams. It's not either/or. It's both/and. Your joy doesn't need justification. You get to have all of it—unapologetically. Week 3 Focus: Unashamed Joy - Pleasure Without Guilt Reflection Questions: 1. What brings me joy that I've been apologizing for? 2. Where am I operating from either/or instead of both/and? 3. What would my life look like if I pursued all my dreams unapologetically? 4. What guilt am I carrying about my joy? 5. What is one joyful practice I can add to my daily life this week?Connect with Nyomi: • Website: AskNyomi.com • Instagram: @AskNyomi @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast • (Tell me: What joy are you ready to stop apologizing for?) • Tune in: Ask Nyomi Bridging the Gap - ThursdaysNext Episode: Action Wednesday - The Joy Audit (identifying blocks + adding joyful practices) Episode Hashtags: #SeasonOfSelfLove #ReclaimedAndUnashamed #MindsetMonday #UnashamedJoy #JoyWithoutGuilt #PursueAllYourDreams #BothAnd #MakingDreamsReality #FullCircleMoments Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support (https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss) . "Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others. If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls. Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovepodcast.com (http://theseasonofselflovepodcast.com) for resources and our downloadable workbook. Want to be a guest on The Season of Self Love? Send Nyomi Banks a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/171967138753618818df2d7f3 Until Monday – keep choosing YOU. This is your girl, the goddess Nyomi Banks. Stay in your season."

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1avUnppG_28

BII Survivor's Journey: Radical Self-Trust & Authentic Living #shorts

Aloma Dibor shares her inspiring journey as a BII survivor, transforming illness into a testament to radical self-trust and authentic living. Her story empowers viewers to embrace their own transformations. #BIIsurvivor #SelfTrust #AuthenticLiving #TransformationJourney #Inspiration

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LnYjB0yYW8s

Removing the Qualifiers: The Work of Direct Communication (Action Wednesday)

What if you removed just ONE phrase from your vocabulary this week? What if you spoke directly, clearly, unapologetically—just once? In this Action Wednesday episode, Nyomi walks you through practical exercises to identify YOUR specific qualifiers, swap them for direct language, and commit to one conversation this week without softening your message. This isn't theory. This is practice. Bring your journal and get ready to do the work. In This Episode:** - Exercise 1: Your Qualifier Inventory (4 categories: Apology, Uncertainty, Minimizing, Hedging) - Exercise 2: The Swap - Before and After (5 common scenarios with direct alternatives) - Exercise 3: Your Real-World Scenarios (practicing with YOUR actual conversations) - Why removing qualifiers feels uncomfortable (and why to do it anyway) - The One Conversation Challenge (your bold action for the week) - Real examples from Nyomi's production week - What success actually looks like (hint: it's not perfection) ** The 4 Types of Qualifiers:** 1. **Apology Qualifiers:** "I'm sorry, but..." "Sorry to bother you..." 2. **Uncertainty Qualifiers:** "I might be wrong, but..." "This might be dumb, but..." 3. **Minimizing Qualifiers:** "Just wondering..." "It's just a thought..." 4. **Hedging Qualifiers:** "Kind of..." "Maybe..." "Perhaps..." **Before and After Examples:** - ❌ "Sorry to interrupt, but I was just wondering if maybe..." - ✅ "I have a question about..." - ❌ "This might be dumb, but what if we sort of tried..." - ✅ "I have an idea. What if we [specific idea]?" • ❌ "I'm so sorry, and I know you're busy, but maybe I can't make it?" • - ✅ "I need to cancel tonight. Can we reschedule?" **Your Bold Action:** Choose ONE conversation this week. Have it without qualifiers. That's it. **Prepare for it:** 1. Write the direct version 2. Practice it out loud 3. Take 3 deep breaths before 4. Speak directly during 5. Journal after **Share Your Commitment:** Instagram: Tag or DM @TheSeasonofSelfLovepodcast with "This week, I'm having [conversation] without qualifiers" **Next Episode:** Mindset Monday - Week 3: Unashamed Joy (Pleasure Without Guilt) **Connect with Nyomi:** - Website: AskNyomi.com - Instagram: @AskNyomi @TheSeasonofselflovepodcast - Tune in: Ask Nyomi Bridging the Gap - Thursdays **Episode Hashtags:** #ActionWednesday #SeasonOfSelfLove #UnashamedVoice #DirectCommunication #RemoveQualifiers #SpeakClearly #NoApologies #ConfidentCommunication Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support (https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss) . "Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others. If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls. Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovepodcast.com (http://theseasonofselflovepodcast.com) for resources and our downloadable workbook. Want to be a guest on The Season of Self Love? Send Nyomi Banks a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/171967138753618818df2d7f3 Until Monday – keep choosing YOU. This is your girl, the goddess Nyomi Banks. Stay in your season."

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=129QC5l3tQ0

Unashamed Voice: Speaking Without Softening Your Truth

 Nyomi has been awake for 24 hours getting production ready. She's exhausted. She could skip this episode. But instead, she shows up—because using your voice even when it's hard IS the lesson.  In this raw, honest Mindset Monday, Nyomi shares how she learned to catch herself softening her voice with qualifiers like "I'm sorry, but..." and "This might be dumb, but..." She talks about creating a Four Agreements book for her production team, Joe Dispenza's quantum leap concept, and why your voice doesn't need to be softened to be valid. Week 2 is about Unashamed Voice—speaking without apologizing, without qualifying, without shrinking. This is growth. In This Episode: • Why Nyomi is recording after 24 hours awake (the lesson IS showing up) • Joe Dispenza's quantum leap: seeing your future self on stage instead of spiraling • Creating a Four Agreements book for production (leadership through voice) • The qualifiers we use to weaken our message • Why we've been conditioned to soften (especially women, especially BIPOC) • The difference between kind and soft (you can be both kind AND direct) • What happens when you stop softening your voice • Future self visualization: How does she speak? • 5 reflection questions to identify where and how you softenKey Takeaway: Your voice doesn't need to be softened to be valid. You can be kind AND direct. You can be compassionate AND clear. Stop apologizing for speaking.  Week 2 Focus: Unashamed Voice - Speaking Without Apologizing Reflection Questions: 1. Where do I soften my voice the most? 2. What am I afraid will happen if I don't soften my voice? 3. What qualifiers do I use most often? 4. Who is my future self, and how does she speak? 5. What would I say differently today if I spoke without softening?Connect with Nyomi: • Website: AskNyomi.com • Instagram: @AskNyomi (Tell me: What qualifier are you ready to let go of?) • Tune in: Ask Nyomi Bridging the Gap - ThursdaysNext Episode: Action Wednesday - Removing the Qualifiers (practical exercises) Episode Hashtags: #SeasonOfSelfLove #ReclaimedAndUnashamed #MindsetMonday #UnashamedVoice #SpeakWithoutSoftening #NoApologies #DirectCommunication #ImpeccabilityOfTheWord Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support (https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss) . "Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others. If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls. Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovepodcast.com (http://theseasonofselflovepodcast.com) for resources and our downloadable workbook. Want to be a guest on The Season of Self Love? Send Nyomi Banks a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/171967138753618818df2d7f3 Until Monday – keep choosing YOU. This is your girl, the goddess Nyomi Banks. Stay in your season."

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MMwwyeUm5GQ

Silently Suffering: My Journey to Mental Wellness #shorts

It’s more common than people realize to suffer in silence, even when dealing with an unknown health issue. Many don't feel the problem is "bad enough" to seek help, or they may not even realize it *is* a problem. #MentalHealthAwareness #SilentSuffering #HiddenIllness #HealthStruggles

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sITtwwiHJ74

HOW DO I HEAL A BROKEN HEART?

💔➡️💜 HOW DO I HEAL A BROKEN HEART? 💜➡️💔 TONIGHT we're not just talking about heartbreak—we're HEALING it. Together. Live. A few weeks ago, a woman I'll call Ms. K watched our show and sent me a letter about her year-old heartbreak. She said something that broke me: "It was sadness behind my smile." I turned her letter into this week's Talk To Me Tuesday episode, and the response was OVERWHELMING. People cried. People felt SEEN. And men started commenting: "We go through this too, but nobody talks about us." Tonight, we're going DEEPER. WHAT WE'RE COVERING: 💔 The 5 Steps to ACTUALLY Heal a Broken Heart (not just "time heals all") 💔 Why Men's Heartbreak Gets Ignored (and what men need) 💔 The "Empty Room" Framework (leave the past, claim your space) 💔 LIVE Healing Exercise - "Mapping Your Space" (BRING YOUR JOURNAL!) 💔 Q&A with Nyomi Banks & Dog Pound Mike Mike This isn't just another episode. This is a HEALING CIRCLE. And we need YOU here. 🎯 IMPORTANT: This is our LAST LIVE SHOW for 2 weeks! Next week we're in Vegas shooting Caught 2 Episodes 3 & 4. Then we're back April 23rd and gearing up for our MAY SERIES: Love & Mental Health Awareness Month! 💜 📝 WHAT TO BRING: - Your journal or notes app - Your heart - Your hurt - Your hope Come as you are: heartbroken, healing, or holding space for someone you love. Your heartbreak doesn't define you. Your HEALING does. --- 🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES: 📻 PREP FOR TONIGHT - Listen First: Talk To Me Tuesday Ep. 4: "How Do I Get Over a Broken Heart?" (Ms. K's Episode) 👉 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/talk-to-me-tuesday-episode-4-how-do-i-get-over-a-broken-heart/id1606795587?i=1000760074694] The Season of Self Love (This Week): Monday: "Unashamed Growth: Redefining What It Means to Bloom" Wednesday: "Claiming Your Space: The Work of Unashamed Growth" 👉 [https://open.spotify.com/show/34BcsCZOLN3ppvdT5VsIJu ] 🛍️ TONIGHT'S SPONSORS: 💊 Bodyotics - Wellness & Sustainable Period Care 30% OFF 2 Reusable Menstrual Disc Sets Bundle 👉 https://bodyotics.sjv.io/e1oqbZ 💜 We-Vibe - Couples Intimacy Products Sync 2 | Date Night Set | Romance Set 👉 https://wevibe-north-america.sjv.io/PO6zNX 📖 SUBMIT YOUR LETTER: Have a question for Talk To Me Tuesday? 👉 AskNyomi.com/submit 📝 READ THE RECLAMATION SERIES: New blog posts every Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday 👉 AskNyomi.com/blog --- FOLLOW US: Instagram: @therealnyomibanks | @asknyomi Facebook: Ask Nyomi YouTube: Ask Nyomi Website: AskNyomi.com --- UPCOMING SCHEDULE: 📅 TONIGHT (April 9): How Do I Heal a Broken Heart? - 8pm EST 📅 April 15-18: OFF - Caught 2 Production in Vegas 📅 April 23: BACK with new episode 📅 MAY: Love & Mental Health Awareness Month Series --- #AskNyomi #BridgingTheGap #HeartbreakHealing #MentalHealthMatters #SelfLove #HealingJourney #MensHealth #WomensHealth #Relationships #BreakupRecovery #EmotionalHealing #SeasonOfSelfLove #LiveShow #AskNyomiLive

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sxktGyygVb8