How Does This Make ME Feel?" - YOUR Feelings as YOUR Truth MAY 2026 - Week 2: The ONE Question

What happens when you're 10 minutes into recording and realize something feels... off? Today's episode is raw and real. Nyomi stopped recording, went to her altar, pulled cards, and came back with THE distinction that changes everything. YOUR feelings about what serves YOUR life = YOUR truth. Trust them. OTHER people's feelings about YOUR choices ≠ YOUR truth. Don't take them personally. This is the ONE question that will transform your closet—and your life. THE REAL STORY Nyomi stopped recording 10 minutes in because the script said "Your feelings are your truth. Trust your feelings." But she thought: "Wait. We're taught feelings AREN'T truth. Feelings are emotions. That's where arguments come from." So she went to her altar, pulled 5 cards, and got THE answer: The distinction is WHOSE feelings.  THE DISTINCTION (CRYSTAL CLEAR) YOUR Feelings About YOUR Life = YOUR Truth When you ask: "How does THIS make ME feel?" When you're deciding: "Does THIS serve MY life?" → TRUST THESE FEELINGS. They're YOUR internal compass. OTHER People's Feelings About YOU ≠ YOUR Truth When THEY think you should keep something. When THEY have opinions about YOUR choices. → DON'T TAKE THESE PERSONALLY. That's about THEM, not YOU.  EXAMPLES IN YOUR CLOSET (Your feelings = Your truth): You put on a dress. Your body tenses. You feel uncomfortable. → "This doesn't serve me. Release it." TRUST THIS.  SOMEONE'S OPINION (Their feelings ≠ Your truth): Friend says: "But you spent money on that! Keep it!" Your truth: It makes you uncomfortable. → Release it anyway. Don't take their opinion personally. MEL ROBBINS' WISDOM "If a piece makes you feel small, ashamed, or disconnected from yourself, it does not belong in your future." The question isn't "Should I keep this?" (logic, external expectations) The question is "How does this make ME feel?" (YOUR internal compass) SHOULD VS. FEEL "Should" = What others expect, what society says, external rules → Disconnects you from what serves YOU  "Feel" = YOUR body's wisdom, YOUR heart's truth, YOUR alignment → Guides you to what serves YOUR becoming YOUR BODY KNOWS When something supports you: Body relaxes, shoulders drop, you breathe easier, you feel like YOURSELF When something doesn't serve you: Body tenses, you pull at fabric, you avoid mirrors, you feel like PERFORMING Your body's feedback = YOUR truth about what serves YOUR life THE EXERCISE  Step 1: Pick up each item Step 2: Put it on or hold it up Step 3: Ask: "How does this make ME feel?" Step 4: Notice your body's response (relax or tense?)  Step 5: Honor that feeling as YOUR truth Keep it if it makes you feel: good, grounded, confident, like yourself Release it if it makes you feel: small, ashamed, uncomfortable, disconnected 5 REFLECTION QUESTIONS 1. What am I keeping because I "should" instead of because it actually feels good? 2. What makes me feel small, ashamed, or disconnected from myself? 3. What makes me feel confident, grounded, and like MYSELF? 4. How do I feel when I open my closet each morning? 5. If I only kept clothes that made me feel good, what would I release?CLOSING AFFIRMATION My feelings about MY life are MY truth. I trust what serves ME. I release what doesn't.  I honor my body's wisdom.  I follow my internal compass. I let go of "should" and embrace "feel."  I am aligned with MY becoming. I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am ready. THE BOTTOM LINE  For YOUR closet/life: "How does this make ME feel?" → Trust this. It's YOUR truth. For OTHERS' opinions: "That's their feeling, not mine." → Don't take it personally. That's the distinction. That's the key. NEXT EPISODE Action Wednesday: The Feeling Audit - Going through your closet piece by piece doing a feeling check on each item. Bring your journal and your honesty. CONNECT  Instagram: @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast YouTube: @TheSeasonofSelfLovewNyomiBanks Website: AskNyomi.com NOTE FROM NYOMI "I pray that you followed me all the way through this. I definitely had to stop ten minutes in and come back and redo it all over again." If you need extra clarity, the full detailed show notes are on the website. But here's the key: YOUR feelings about YOUR life = trust them. OTHER people's feelings about YOUR choices = don't take them personally. Season 5 = More real, more honest, more action.  Let's do the work. Credit: Inspired by Mel Robbins' Instagram post about closets #ReclaimingYourCloset #SeasonOfSelfLove #Season5 #YourFeelingsYourTruth #TheDistinction #ReclaimedAndUnashamed Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support (https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss) . "Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others. If today's episode resonated with you, sh...

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WHEN LOVE LIES Betrayal, Secrets & Your Mental Health

She took the choice away from me. Those are the words from a letter I received months ago — written by a woman on a Sunday morning over a cup of homemade tea. She trusted me with her truth. And this month — her story becomes OUR heartbeat. Welcome to LOVED, LOST & RECLAIMED — our Love & Mental Health Awareness Month series on Ask Nyomi: Bridging the Gap. Week 1: WHEN LOVE LIES Betrayal, Secrets & Your Mental Health What happens to your mind, your heart and your sense of self when the person you gave everything to was never fully honest about who they were? Whether it was a secret career, a secret life, a secret identity — betrayal is betrayal. And it leaves a mark that most people never get to name. Tonight we name it. Your host Nyomi Banks (Da Goddess of Self Love) is joined by co-host Dogg Pound Mike Mike and health psychologist Dr. Will Washington of Washington Wellness Institute for a live, interactive conversation you do not want to miss. Have a story? Email asknyomi@gmail.com Support the cause: link in show notes Ask Nyomi: Bridging the Gap Thursday May 7, 2026 — 6PM PST — LIVEWant to create live streams like this? Check out StreamYard: https://streamyard.com/pal/d/5788763212218368

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Reclaiming Your Closet: The Closet Inventory MAY 2026 - Week 1: Identifying the Three Types & Beg...

 Monday, we talked about the map. Today, we draw the lines. Today, we inventory. Today, we identify. Today, we begin the release.  In this Action Wednesday, Nyomi gets REAL about her own closet journey—the 200+ wigs, the 30-year-old clothes, the drawer of expensive bras she gave away LAST WEEK, the family memorial t-shirts she released THIS MORNING, and the red carpet dresses she's finally ready to let go. This isn't theory. This is Nyomi doing the work WITH you, in real time, sharing her own struggles and breakthroughs as she reclaims her closet. This is Season 5. This is action. Let's do the work. IN THIS EPISODE The Recap: Three Types of Clothes • Type 1: Clothes that no longer fit your LIFE (not just body—your actual life, who you are, where you live, what you do, how you move) • Type 2: Clothes from old chapters (the job you left, relationships that ended, versions you've outgrown) • Type 3: Clothes for a version that never arrived (fantasy clothes, "someday" clothes, "when I'm that person" clothes)Nyomi's REAL Stories (Doing the Work in Real Time): The Background: • Cleans her closet at least 6 times a year • STILL has clothes older than her 30-year-old oldest daughter • Had over 200 wigs (now down to maybe 100-150) • Used to buy clothes constantly when actively in the industry, going to events, seminars • Now back in production on mainstream projects—her production company doing amazing things • Some clothes/wigs can now go to her production house to become charactersLast Week's Release: • A whole drawer of expensive, custom-made bras • Victoria's Secret bras, bras specifically made for her old size • Had breast implant surgery in August of last year • Has cleaned closet/drawers 3 times since August • STILL was holding onto TWO big drawers of bras she could no longer wear • Finally bagged them and gave them away LAST WEEKThe Red Carpet Dresses: • Still has several red carpet dresses • Knows she'll never fit back in them (not just size—doesn't have the body for them post-surgery) • Expensive pieces she's been holding onto • "But I spent so much money on this!"—finally ready to releaseThis Morning's Release: • Family memorial t-shirts from when family members passed away • Some with pictures faded from washing • Some she wears sometimes, some she doesn't • Had them for YEARS • Sat at altar this morning and prayed about releasing them • Has their obituaries and pictures displayed—that's memory enough • Doesn't need the garments with their pictures on them to rememberHer Mother's Closet: • "I wish I could go into my mother's closet and do it!" • Her mother (she's her caregiver) has SO many old clothes • Being her caregiver has been "one" (laughs about it now) • Can see the same patterns in her mother's closetThe Mel Robbins Post Timing: • Hit her at the EXACT right time last week while cleaning closet • Thought she was doing it right (cleans 6 times a year!) • Realized: still holding blockage, still holding things with old energy and old stories • Divine timing: the expansion happening in her life NEEDS this release nowExercise 1: The Closet Inventory NYOMI WANTS YOU TO ACTUALLY DO THIS (not just think about it): Step 1: Pick ONE Section • One shelf, one rod, one drawer • Not the whole closet—just ONE section • Make it manageableStep 2: Pull Everything Out • Don't leave it in the closet • Put it all out where you can see it • Every single item from that sectionStep 3: Sort Into Three Piles • PILE 1: Doesn't fit my life anymore • PILE 2: From an old chapter I've outgrown • PILE 3: For a version of me that never arrivedStep 4: Journal on Each Pile • For Pile 1: Why doesn't this fit my life anymore? What has changed? • For Pile 2: What chapter was this from? What version of me wore this? Why am I holding onto that chapter? • For Pile 3: What version of me was I trying to be? Why didn't that version arrive? What was I trying to prove? Who was I trying to become?Step 5: Make the Decision • Go through each pile • Keep or release? • Ask yourself: Does this support who I am NOW or who I'm BECOMING? • If the answer is no → it goesStep 6: The Physical Release • Get donation bags • Put released items IN the bags • Tie them up • Put them in your car • Drop them off within 48 HOURS (this is critical—don't let them sit!)The 4 Common Blocks & How to Overcome Them: BLOCK 1: "But I spent so much money on this" Nyomi's example: The red carpet dresses The truth: Keeping it won't get your money back. The money is gone whether it's in the closet or at Goodwill. But at least at Goodwill, someone can use it. Your response: "I honor the money I spent. And I release the guilt. Because someone else will love this piece." BLOCK 2: "What if I need it someday?" The truth: You won't. And if you do, you'll find something better that actually fits wh...

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DxBM-UjSFcw

Reclaiming Your Closet: Your Closet is a Map of Your Past Selves

Your closet is not just clothes. It's a map of your past selves. Old identities. Old chapters. Old versions of you that you've outgrown. And if you want to reclaim your life, you have to reclaim your closet. In this May series kickoff, Nyomi shares the story of her 15-year-old coats in the Las Vegas desert, the Mel Robbins post that stopped her cold, and why she's teaching this AGAIN even though she already did an episode on this years ago. Because growth is a spiral, not a line. And sometimes the universe has to remind you: there's more work to do. This is Season 5. More intentional. More action. This month, we're reclaiming our closets—and our lives. IN THIS EPISODE The Divine Timing: • Nyomi was spring cleaning (AGAIN) while planning May content for Ask Nyomi's Love & Mental Health series • Mel Robbins' post about closets came across her timeline and STOPPED HER COLD • She KNEW this was the May series: "This was the message. This is what we're doing." • The universe/God had other plans than what she originally plannedThe Story: 15-Year-Old Coats in the Desert: • Nyomi cleaning her closet (her "Achilles heel") • Cleans it out several times a year, donates bags, yet it's STILL full • Pulling out old garments from her design days, pieces that don't fit, haven't worn in forever • Multiple coats fall down—had them for OVER 15 YEARS • Living in Las Vegas (THE DESERT!) where she barely wears coats • "Maybe I wore them once or twice, if that" • Why kept them? Expensive, loved them once, represented a version of her that felt "fancy, put together, important" • Looking at them now: felt NOTHING. They don't fit who she is. Just taking up space.The Honest Truth: She Taught This Before: • "I have to be real with y'all. I've taught this before." • A year or two ago: episode called "Clearing Space to Receive: A Journey of Physical and Mental Liberation" • Talked about clearing closet, clearing life, making space • THOUGHT she had done the work • But those 15-year-old coats? STILL THERE. • When Mel's post appeared: "That was definitely God. That was definitely the universe reminding me: there's more work to do, Nyomi." • "There's always another layer. Growth is a spiral, not a line."WHO THIS EPISODE IS FOR ✨ Anyone who's cleaned their closet multiple times and it's STILL overwhelming ✨ People holding onto clothes from old chapters, old bodies, old versions ✨ Anyone who feels stuck when they open their closet ✨ Those ready to do the deeper work (not just organize—RECLAIM) ✨ People who resonate with "growth is a spiral, not a line" KEY TAKEAWAYS Divine Timing: • Mel Robbins' post appeared EXACTLY when Nyomi was spring cleaning • The universe/God redirected her May series • Sometimes the signs are that obviousCONNECT WITH NYOMI Personal IG: @TheRealNyomiBanks (spelled N-Y-O-M-I) Podcast IG: @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast Website: AskNyomi.com Tell Nyomi: What old identity is hanging in YOUR closet? 2026 YEARLY THEME: RECLAIMED & UNASHAMED May 2026 Monthly Theme: Reclaiming Your Closet - Unashamed Letting Go Week 1: Your Closet is a Map of Your Past Selves ✨ SHARE YOUR REFLECTION After listening, journal on the 5 reflection questions and share your biggest takeaway on Instagram. Tag @TheRealNyomiBanks or @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast so Nyomi can celebrate your journey with you. What old identity is hanging in YOUR closet? Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support (https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss) . "Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others. If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls. Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovepodcast.com (http://theseasonofselflovepodcast.com) for resources and our downloadable workbook. Want to be a guest on The Season of Self Love? Send Nyomi Banks a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/171967138753618818df2d7f3 Until Monday – keep choosing YOU. This is your girl, the goddess Nyomi Banks. Stay in your season."

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ju9gqHHjPwc

Episode 400: The Time is NOW - Welcome to Season 5 Celebration

Four hundred episodes. Three years. Thousands of lives changed. What started as a gift to herself for her 51st birthday—just four episodes in October 2023—became a daily podcast that has transformed thousands of lives. Today, Nyomi celebrates Episode 400 and announces the biggest shift yet: Welcome to Season 5.  From now on, it's primarily just Nyomi and you—real-time stories, practical exercises, lived teaching, and transformation. Occasional guests when intentional, but the focus is YOU doing the work, not just consuming content. Plus: a major announcement about June 23rd. Something Nyomi's been planning for YEARS is finally launching. This is Season 5. More intentional. More action. The time is NOW. IN THIS EPISODE The Journey to 400 Episodes: • Started as a 51st birthday gift to herself in October 2023 (originally just 4 episodes!) • Sitting at her altar 2 episodes in and hearing: "Daily" • The nervousness of being vulnerable on this show (different from 17+ years in radio/media) • Format changes throughout the journey as we grow and transform • 400 conversations, stories, tears, breakthroughs, revelations, transformationsHonoring the Community: • Thousands of listeners who've been transformed • Messages: "This podcast changed my life," "helped me leave," "gave me permission to heal" • The ripple effect: when one person heals, everyone around them is affected • This was never about numbers—it's about transformationHonoring the Guests: • The incredible voices: healers, teachers, coaches, therapists, survivors, leaders • ESPECIALLY Dr. Will Washington of Washington Wellness (cornerstone of this podcast) • The altar moment in November/December: "If you want me to continue daily, send me some help" • Dr. Will showing up when needed • Gratitude for every guest who shared their story, expertise, vulnerabilityWhat April Taught Nyomi (The Altar Confirmation): • April 2026: Paused weekly guests, just Nyomi and listeners • Shared real-time stories: green bathroom, 24 hours awake, production week, migraine altar moment • Watched transformation happen through action, not just listening • Realized: THIS format (just us) is the healing • Went to her altar for clarity: sat for mornings, asking, listening, waiting • Message was clear: It's time for a new season, new format, new missionSeason 5 Format Announcement: • Primarily solo episodes: Nyomi + listeners (no more weekly guests) • Occasional guests ONLY when intentional (specific topics, needed expertise, important stories) • Not the norm—intentional and rare • Mindset episodes: Real-time stories + teaching • Action episodes: Practical work, exercises, tools, commitments together • Monthly themes to guide focus and create momentumWhy the Solo Format: • "You don't need more information. You need TRANSFORMATION." • You need someone to walk with you through the work • You need practical tools, permission, a guide • Nyomi's role: COACH (like basketball coach, track coach, dance coach) • Accountability, tools, working together to perfect it • Sometimes guests dilute directness; sometimes you need clarity, not complexity • Sometimes you need someone to say: "I've been there. Here's how. Let's do it together."Season 5 Mission: • More intentional. More action. • NO MORE "I'll wait until the time is right" → THE TIME IS NOW • NO MORE consuming content without taking action → WE'RE DOING THE WORK • NO MORE learning without living → WE'RE APPLYING THE LESSONS • About implementation. About becoming who you're meant to be. Not someday. NOW.Nyomi's Childhood Dream: • Wanted to change the world, make the world better • Taking her assignment seriously • At 400 episodes, it's time to elevate to another level • Now we have to STOP TALKING about it and BE ABOUT ITJUNE 23RD LAUNCH ANNOUNCEMENT: • Something Nyomi's been working on and planning for YEARS • Everything she's been building toward • Culmination of her coaching work, self-love work, mission to help people transform from the inside out • "It's going to change lives" • More details coming soon • It's BIG. It's POWERFUL. It's FINALLY TIME.The Ripple Effect: • Everyone who listens and does the work → changes • When they change → affects everyone around them (partner, kids, friends, coworkers, community) • One person healing creates a ripple • That ripple spreads • We're not just healing ourselves—we're creating a MOVEMENT • We're changing the world one transformed life at a timeInvitation to Season 5: • Show up. Do the work. Take action. • DON'T JUST LISTEN to episodes → DO the exercises • DON'T JUST HEAR stories → APPLY the lessons • DON'T JUST CONSUME content → LIVE the transformation • Are you ready? (Nyomi is!)What to Expect in Season 5: • More Mindset episodes (real-time stories + teaching) • More Action episodes (practical wo...

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0_1gcV-FkvA

Public Love or Private Pain: Should you share your relationship on social media?

PUBLIC LOVE or PRIVATE PAIN? 🔒 Meg Thee Stallion & Klay Thompson broke up. And what happened? 💔 Meg gets SLUT-SHAMED across social media 💔 Klay gets MALE-BASHED online 💔 Some INNOCENT woman gets DEATH THREATS 💔 Everyone feels entitled to their business So TONIGHT we're asking the REAL question: **Should you share your relationship on social media?** Because here's what people don't talk about: ✓ The DANGER of oversharing (stalking, harassment, threats) ✓ The double standards (why women get attacked differently) ✓ The cost of going public (privacy you can never get back) ✓ When privacy isn't optional—it's PROTECTION Tonight I'm sharing my own story: Multiple stalking situations. Boundary violations. Why I keep my relationships PRIVATE. This isn't gossip. This is about SAFETY. BOUNDARIES. MENTAL HEALTH. **TONIGHT • Thursday, April 30 • 8PM EST** *LAST SHOW BEFORE MAY'S MENTAL HEALTH SERIES!* We're covering: 🔒 Public vs Private relationships 🔒 Safety & security concerns 🔒 The Meg & Klay case study (what's REALLY happening) 🔒 Double standards & slut-shaming 🔒 How to protect your relationship AND yourself 🔒 Live polls—where do YOU stand? Drop 🔒 if you keep your relationship private Drop 📱 if you share your relationship online Drop ❓ if you're not sure what's right NEXT WEEK (MAY 1): Love & Mental Health Awareness Month kicks off! 💜 #AskNyomi #BridgingTheGap #PrivacyMatters #RelationshipBoundaries #SocialMediaSafety #PublicVsPrivate #MegTheeStallion #OnlineSafety #Boundaries #MentalHealthMatters

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0wqaQdRUQZE

The Rest Practice: Honoring Your Body Without Guilt (Action Wednesday)

What if rest isn't laziness? What if rest is expansion? In this Action Wednesday episode, Nyomi walks you through practical exercises to create your rest practice, identify where you're doing too much vs. being enough, and take responsibility without judgment. This is the work of unashamed expansion. Bring your journal and get ready to honor your body. **In This Episode:** - Exercise 1: Where is your body asking you to rest? (5 questions to identify signals you've been ignoring) - Exercise 2: Doing too much vs. Being enough (balancing the DOING list with the BEING list) - Exercise 3: Taking responsibility without judgment (reframing with the formula from the 6th card) - Exercise 4: Creating your rest practice (ONE specific, timed, non-negotiable commitment) - Addressing the guilt: "But I have so much to do..." - The choice: Rest now on your terms, or rest later when your body forces you - Real examples from Nyomi's life (altar time, saying no, lying down, pushing back deadlines) - The 7-Day Rest Challenge **The 4 Exercises:** 1. **Where is your body asking you to rest?** - Physical symptoms, when they started, what you're telling yourself, what your body is actually saying 2. **Doing vs. Being** - List everything you're doing, mark what drains you, identify where you need to BE more 3. **Taking responsibility without judgment** - "I take responsibility for [action], but I do not judge myself for [being human]" 4. **Your rest practice** - ONE specific form of rest, made specific and timed, with prepared responses to blocks **Your Rest Practice Options:** - Sleep (30 min earlier) - Stillness (10 min silence) - Movement (gentle stretching/walking) - Saying No (decline one draining commitment) - Support (ask for help with one thing) - Boundaries (protect one hour for nothing) **The Formula:** "I take responsibility for [action/situation], but I do not judge myself for [being human]." **Your Challenge:** Do your rest practice every day for 7 days. Notice what shifts. Journal at the end: What did rest teach me about expansion? **Share Your Practice:** Instagram: Tag or DM @AskNyomi with "This week, my rest practice is..." **Connect with Nyomi:** - Website: AskNyomi.com - Instagram: @AskNyomi @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast - Tune in: Ask Nyomi Bridging the Gap - Thursdays ** #ActionWednesday #SeasonOfSelfLove #UnashamedExpansion #RestPractice #HonorYourBody #RestWithoutGuilt #TakeResponsibilityWithoutJudgment #RestIsMedicine Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support (https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss) . "Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others. If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls. Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovepodcast.com (http://theseasonofselflovepodcast.com) for resources and our downloadable workbook. Want to be a guest on The Season of Self Love? Send Nyomi Banks a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/171967138753618818df2d7f3 Until Monday – keep choosing YOU. This is your girl, the goddess Nyomi Banks. Stay in your season."

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5eA4JMduhm8