Desire After Darkness: Reclaiming Your Body, Your Want & Your Heart

Five years of silence. And then one day — the door cracked back open. 💜 Tonight on Ask Nyomi: Bridging the Gap we are talking about what happens to your desire, your body and your heart after you have been through it. And what it means when it finally starts to come back. EPISODE 3 — Desire After Darkness: Reclaiming Your Body, Your Want & Your Heart Joining Nyomi Banks and Dogg Pound Mike Mike tonight is health psychologist Dr. Will Washington AND a very special returning guest — author and inspirational speaker Krista Nicole, author of God's Divine Plans for Marriage. This is the conversation Da Goddess was born to lead. Come ready to be real. Thursday May 21 · 6PM PST · LIVE Ask Nyomi: Bridging the Gap Loved, Lost & Reclaimed — Love & Mental Health Awareness Month 💜 Love & Mental Health Fund — link in show notes 💙 Help Maverick Fight — link in show notes 🔍 Social Catfish — link in show notes Want to create live streams like this? Check out StreamYard: https://streamyard.com/pal/d/5788763212218368

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ksZoOP2-3b8

Creating Your Possibility Closet MAY 2026 - Week 3: Visioning, Identifying Gaps, Building Intenti...

You've released the past and cleared the pressure. Now it's time to CREATE the future and BUILD the possibility. Today, we're visioning your possibility closet, identifying what's missing, and making a plan to build INTENTIONALLY. Grab your journal. Let's do the work. IN THIS EPISODE Meditation: Visioning yourself and what you're wearing as you become Exercise 1: Defining Your Becoming Energy (3 steps) • Name the energy (3-5 words) • Describe what that energy looks like • Ask what that energy needsExercise 2: Visioning Your Possibility Closet • Answer questions about colors, fabrics, silhouettes, categories, overall vibe • Complete: "My possibility closet is a place where..."Exercise 3: The Gap Analysis • What's working? (5-10 pieces you love) • What's missing? (specific gaps) • What has biggest impact? (focus item)Exercise 4: Building Intentionally • Define your criteria (non-negotiables) • Create your becoming shopping list (specific, not general) • Set a timeline (don't rush, find RIGHT pieces)Intentional Shopping Guide • Before, during, and after shopping protocols • 3 questions to ask every pieceWhat If You Can't Afford It? • Shop your closet differently • Alter what you have • Thrift or swap • Save intentionally ($10-20/month = 1 perfect piece in 6 months)EXERCISE 1: DEFINING YOUR BECOMING ENERGY Not job titles. Not weight goals. ENERGY. Step 1: Name the Energy Pick 3-5 words: Confident? Grounded? Powerful? Playful? Soft? Bold? Expressive? Free? Royal? Creative? Step 2: Describe What That Energy Looks Like "When I'm [energy word], I [action]." Examples: • When I'm confident, I stand tall and speak clearly • When I'm grounded, I move slowly, breathe deeply, feel connected • When I'm powerful, I make decisions quickly, trust myself, lead with clarityStep 3: Ask What That Energy Needs "To support this energy, I need clothes that [blank]." Examples: • To support my confidence, I need clothes that fit well, make me feel amazing • To support my groundedness, I need clothes that feel good on my skin, don't restrict me • To support my power, I need clothes that make me feel like a boss, have structureThis is your BECOMING ENERGY PROFILE. EXERCISE 2: VISIONING YOUR POSSIBILITY CLOSET Imagine tomorrow you open your closet. It's PERFECT. It supports who you are NOW and who you're BECOMING. Answer: • Colors: What colors dominate? What colors make you feel like your becoming energy? • Fabrics: What textures feel good on your skin? • Silhouettes: What shapes/cuts make you feel like yourself? • Categories: What's abundant? What's minimal? • Overall Vibe: How does it FEEL when you open this closet?Complete: "My possibility closet is a place where [blank]." Nyomi's example: "My possibility closet is a place where every piece makes me feel like the goddess that I am. Where I can get dressed in 5 minutes because everything works. Where I'm surrounded by colors that make me feel powerful, fabrics that make me feel luxurious, and silhouettes that let me move freely. Where I open the doors and feel excited, not overwhelmed." EXERCISE 3: THE GAP ANALYSIS Step 1: What's Working? List 5-10 pieces you LOVE that make you feel like your becoming self. Step 2: What's Missing? Compare current closet to possibility vision. What specific gaps do you see? Examples: • Missing: Powerful blazers that make me feel like a boss • Missing: Flowy dresses in colors that support my goddess energy • Missing: Comfortable pants that let me move freelyStep 3: What Has Biggest Impact? Which ONE piece will shift your closet from pressure to possibility? Circle that. That's your FOCUS. EXERCISE 4: BUILDING INTENTIONALLY Step 1: Define Your Criteria (Non-Negotiables) "I only bring pieces into my closet that: 1. Make me feel [your becoming energy words] 2. Support my actual life needs 3. Pass the feeling test"Step 2: Create Your Becoming Shopping List Be SPECIFIC. Not "I need tops" but "I need 2 tops in [color] that make me feel [energy] and work for [specific situation]." Step 3: Set a Timeline Give yourself time to find the RIGHT pieces. Not just ANY pieces. Examples: • By June 1st, I will have found 1 powerful blazer that makes me feel like a boss • By July 1st, I will have 3 dresses in colors that support my goddess energyINTENTIONAL SHOPPING Before Shopping: • Review your criteria • Review your becoming shopping list • Know EXACTLY what you're looking forWhen Shopping: Ask 3 questions: 1. How does this make me feel? 2. Does this support my becoming energy? 3. Will I wear this in my actual life?If all 3 are YES → Consider it If ANY are NO → Walk away After Buying: • Try it on with other pieces in closet • Confirm it still feels good • If YES → Keep. If NO → Return (no shame, no guilt)WHAT IF YOU CAN'T AFFORD IT? Option 1: Shop Your Closet Differently With becoming energy in mind, go back through what you kept. Style di...

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XdWT0aS8jwQ

From Pressure to Possibility MAY 2026 - Week 3: Your Closet Supporting Who You're BECOMING

Your closet should not be a place of pressure—where you feel judged, not enough, or stuck. Your closet should be a place of POSSIBILITY—where you feel supported, free, and like YOU. This week, we're shifting from what you're RELEASING to what you're CREATING. From pressure to possibility. From past to present. From stuck to BECOMING. THE PROOF: NYOMI'S STORY  Last Wednesday morning before filming Action Wednesday, Nyomi went into her closet to get dressed. She pulled out a light blue outfit she loved when she had implants—but hadn't worn since her explant surgery in August (10 months ago). She did the feeling audit: "How does this make me feel?" Answer: Beautiful. Good. Like MYSELF. The healed me. The goddess me. The RECLAIMED me. Decision: This one can stay. What she did: WORE IT while filming the feeling audit episode. "I wasn't just TEACHING the feeling audit. I was WEARING the proof of it." The lesson: Not everything from your past has to go. But EVERYTHING has to pass the feeling test. MEDITATION: VISIONING YOUR BECOMING Today's meditation: See the next version of you. Not who you were, not who you think you should be, but who you're naturally BECOMING. Affirmations: • I am becoming her/him/them • I am stepping into that energy now • My closet supports who I am now and who I am becoming • I release pressure. I embrace possibility.THE SHIFT: PRESSURE VS. POSSIBILITY PRESSURE Feels Like: • Overwhelmed by too many choices • Guilty about what you haven't worn • Ashamed about your body • Stuck in the past • "Nothing works" / "Nothing to wear" even though closet is fullPOSSIBILITY Feels Like: • Excited about your options • Confident in your choices • Supported by your clothes • Connected to yourself • Free to be who you are • "Everything works" / "I have exactly what I need"Same closet. Different energy. CONNECT Instagram: @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast | @TheRealNyomiBanks YouTube: @TheSeasonofSelfLovewNyomiBanks DM Nyomi: Who are you becoming? WATCH ON YOUTUBE The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube! Subscribe for video episodes. 🎥 YouTube: @TheSeasonofSelfLovewNyomiBanks #ReclaimingYourCloset #PressureToPossibility #SeasonOfSelfLove #Season5 #WhoAmIBecoming #GoddessEnergy #ReclaimedAndUnashamed #YourClosetIsATool Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support (https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss) . "Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others. If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls. Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast visit theseasonofselflovepodcast.com (http://theseasonofselflovepodcast.com) for resources and our downloadable workbook. Want to be a guest on The Season of Self Love? Send Nyomi Banks a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/171967138753618818df2d7f3 Until Monday – keep choosing YOU. This is your girl, the goddess Nyomi Banks. Stay in your season."

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YEf9fcYAz28

RED FLAGS & ROSE COLORED GLASSES : Why We Ignore What We Already Know

You saw the flag. You felt it. And you stayed anyway. 🚩 Tonight on Ask Nyomi: Bridging the Gap — we are getting honest about the role WE play in our own heartbreak. Love bombing. Future faking. The narcissistic abuse cycle. We are breaking it ALL down. Join Nyomi Banks, Dogg Pound Mike Mike & Dr. Will Washington LIVE. WEEK/EPISODE 2 — Red Flags & Rose Colored Glasses: Why We Ignore What We Already Know Thursday May 14 · 6PM PST · LIVE Ask Nyomi: Bridging the Gap Loved, Lost & Reclaimed — Love & Mental Health Awareness Month Want to create live streams like this? Check out StreamYard: https://streamyard.com/pal/d/5788763212218368

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q9RbA6tvC7U

Reclaiming Your Closet: The Feeling Audit

 Monday, we learned THE question: "How does this make me feel?" Today, we do the actual audit. Piece by piece. Item by item. We ask the question. We name the feeling. We release based on FEELING alone. Not logic. Not guilt. Not "should." Just feeling. This is Action Wednesday. This is the work.  IN THIS EPISODE The Recap: • The question isn't "Should I keep this?" but "How does this make me feel?" • Mel Robbins: "If a piece makes you feel small, ashamed, or disconnected, it does not belong in your future." • Today: Releasing based on FEELING, not logic, guilt, or should.EXERCISE 1: THE FEELING AUDIT (5 STEPS) Step 1: Pick the section you inventoried last week (tops, pants, dresses, shoes)  Step 2: Pull out each item one at a time. Put it on. Look in the mirror.  Step 3: Ask OUT LOUD: "How does this make me feel?"  Step 4: Name the SPECIFIC feeling: • Confident or insecure? • Grounded or disconnected? • Beautiful or ashamed? • Like yourself or like you're pretending?Step 5: Make the decision based on feeling: • Feel good/confident/yourself → KEEP IT • Feel small/ashamed/disconnected → RELEASE ITThat's it. Not "how much I spent." Not "will it fit someday." How does it make me FEEL?  EXERCISE 2: WRITING THE FEELING RESPONSES Create two columns in your journal: Column 1 - KEEP (What Makes Me Feel Good): • Item + Feeling (blue sweater = confident)Column 2 - RELEASE (What Makes Me Feel Bad): • Item + Feeling + Why you kept it (white dress = uncomfortable = spent money on it)This shows you the PATTERN. What you've been tolerating. What you've been carrying.  EXERCISE 3: THE SHOULD VS. FEEL CHECK For items you're struggling with:  Q1: Am I keeping this because I SHOULD or because it FEELS GOOD?  Q2: Who says I should? Is it MY rule or somebody else's?  Q3: What would happen if I let this go? Answer: Nothing. You'd just have one less piece that makes you feel bad. That's a WIN. THE RESISTANCE TESTS  Mirror Test: Put it on. Do I feel like myself or like I'm performing? (Performing = Release) One-Year Test: Have I worn this in the past year? (No = Release) Today Test: Would I buy this exact item today, knowing what I know about myself NOW? (No = Release) THE 5 COMMON SHOULD TRAPS Trap 1: "But it's in perfect condition!" → Doesn't mean it serves YOU. Donate it.  Trap 2: "But I spent money on it!" → That money is GONE already. Can't get it back by keeping something that makes you feel bad. Trap 3: "But it's a classic/timeless!" → For WHO? If it doesn't feel good on YOU, it doesn't matter. Trap 4: "But everyone says it looks good on me!" → Great. Then THEY can wear it. YOU wear what makes YOU feel good. Trap 5: "But I might need it for an event!" → When that event comes, you'll find something that makes you feel AMAZING, not something you settle for. THE RELEASE RITUAL (3 STEPS)  Step 1 - Acknowledge: "I kept this because I spent money / thought I should / someone gave it to me." Step 2 - Thank: "Thank you for the lesson. Thank you for teaching me to honor my feelings." Step 3 - Release with Love: Put in donation bag. Say: "I release this with love. May it serve someone who feels amazing in it." WHAT IF MOST OF MY CLOSET DOESN'T FEEL GOOD?  First: Breathe. That's good information. You've been carrying emotional weight. Now you get to release it.  Second: You don't have to release it all at once. But you DO have to start. What to do: • Keep only what makes you feel good (even if it's 5-10 pieces) • Quality over quantity • Identify what's actually missing • Build intentionally moving forward (only bring in items that pass the feeling test)YOUR COMMITMENT THIS WEEK I commit to: 1. Going through the section I inventoried last week 2. Asking "How does it make me feel?" for EACH item 3. Naming the specific feeling 4. Releasing everything that makes me feel small, ashamed, or disconnected 5. Keeping ONLY what makes me feel grounded, confident, supported 6. Dropping off donations within 48 hoursSay it out loud. Write it down. Make it real. WHAT THIS CREATES ✨ Your closet becomes a sanctuary—every option supports you ✨ Your mornings become easier—you're not fighting yourself  ✨ Your confidence increases—you're wearing YOUR truth ✨ You learn to trust yourself and your feelings That's RECLAIMED. That's UNASHAMED. That's SELF-LOVE. NYOMI'S REAL TALK  "When I saw Mel's post, I had been cleaning out my closet yet again. My closet was STILL full. The coats fell down and I'm like, I have to do something different. At the end of this month, I'm getting a new closet. This is me unblocking something more. Opening up to receiving—growth, opportunity, wisdom, elevation, being UNSTUCK. That money I spent? It's gone already. I can't get it back by keeping something that makes me feel bad. It is more than just the clothing in the closet. It's so much more bigger than that." CLOSING AFFIRMATION I trust my feelings. My feelings are my guide. I release what makes me feel small....

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BqfNHFNBJS0

How Does This Make ME Feel?" - YOUR Feelings as YOUR Truth MAY 2026 - Week 2: The ONE Question

What happens when you're 10 minutes into recording and realize something feels... off? Today's episode is raw and real. Nyomi stopped recording, went to her altar, pulled cards, and came back with THE distinction that changes everything. YOUR feelings about what serves YOUR life = YOUR truth. Trust them. OTHER people's feelings about YOUR choices ≠ YOUR truth. Don't take them personally. This is the ONE question that will transform your closet—and your life. THE REAL STORY Nyomi stopped recording 10 minutes in because the script said "Your feelings are your truth. Trust your feelings." But she thought: "Wait. We're taught feelings AREN'T truth. Feelings are emotions. That's where arguments come from." So she went to her altar, pulled 5 cards, and got THE answer: The distinction is WHOSE feelings.  THE DISTINCTION (CRYSTAL CLEAR) YOUR Feelings About YOUR Life = YOUR Truth When you ask: "How does THIS make ME feel?" When you're deciding: "Does THIS serve MY life?" → TRUST THESE FEELINGS. They're YOUR internal compass. OTHER People's Feelings About YOU ≠ YOUR Truth When THEY think you should keep something. When THEY have opinions about YOUR choices. → DON'T TAKE THESE PERSONALLY. That's about THEM, not YOU.  EXAMPLES IN YOUR CLOSET (Your feelings = Your truth): You put on a dress. Your body tenses. You feel uncomfortable. → "This doesn't serve me. Release it." TRUST THIS.  SOMEONE'S OPINION (Their feelings ≠ Your truth): Friend says: "But you spent money on that! Keep it!" Your truth: It makes you uncomfortable. → Release it anyway. Don't take their opinion personally. MEL ROBBINS' WISDOM "If a piece makes you feel small, ashamed, or disconnected from yourself, it does not belong in your future." The question isn't "Should I keep this?" (logic, external expectations) The question is "How does this make ME feel?" (YOUR internal compass) SHOULD VS. FEEL "Should" = What others expect, what society says, external rules → Disconnects you from what serves YOU  "Feel" = YOUR body's wisdom, YOUR heart's truth, YOUR alignment → Guides you to what serves YOUR becoming YOUR BODY KNOWS When something supports you: Body relaxes, shoulders drop, you breathe easier, you feel like YOURSELF When something doesn't serve you: Body tenses, you pull at fabric, you avoid mirrors, you feel like PERFORMING Your body's feedback = YOUR truth about what serves YOUR life THE EXERCISE  Step 1: Pick up each item Step 2: Put it on or hold it up Step 3: Ask: "How does this make ME feel?" Step 4: Notice your body's response (relax or tense?)  Step 5: Honor that feeling as YOUR truth Keep it if it makes you feel: good, grounded, confident, like yourself Release it if it makes you feel: small, ashamed, uncomfortable, disconnected 5 REFLECTION QUESTIONS 1. What am I keeping because I "should" instead of because it actually feels good? 2. What makes me feel small, ashamed, or disconnected from myself? 3. What makes me feel confident, grounded, and like MYSELF? 4. How do I feel when I open my closet each morning? 5. If I only kept clothes that made me feel good, what would I release?CLOSING AFFIRMATION My feelings about MY life are MY truth. I trust what serves ME. I release what doesn't.  I honor my body's wisdom.  I follow my internal compass. I let go of "should" and embrace "feel."  I am aligned with MY becoming. I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am ready. THE BOTTOM LINE  For YOUR closet/life: "How does this make ME feel?" → Trust this. It's YOUR truth. For OTHERS' opinions: "That's their feeling, not mine." → Don't take it personally. That's the distinction. That's the key. NEXT EPISODE Action Wednesday: The Feeling Audit - Going through your closet piece by piece doing a feeling check on each item. Bring your journal and your honesty. CONNECT  Instagram: @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast YouTube: @TheSeasonofSelfLovewNyomiBanks Website: AskNyomi.com NOTE FROM NYOMI "I pray that you followed me all the way through this. I definitely had to stop ten minutes in and come back and redo it all over again." If you need extra clarity, the full detailed show notes are on the website. But here's the key: YOUR feelings about YOUR life = trust them. OTHER people's feelings about YOUR choices = don't take them personally. Season 5 = More real, more honest, more action.  Let's do the work. Credit: Inspired by Mel Robbins' Instagram post about closets #ReclaimingYourCloset #SeasonOfSelfLove #Season5 #YourFeelingsYourTruth #TheDistinction #ReclaimedAndUnashamed Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support (https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss) . "Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others. If today's episode resonated with you, sh...

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CS21rgBNpWA

WHEN LOVE LIES Betrayal, Secrets & Your Mental Health

She took the choice away from me. Those are the words from a letter I received months ago — written by a woman on a Sunday morning over a cup of homemade tea. She trusted me with her truth. And this month — her story becomes OUR heartbeat. Welcome to LOVED, LOST & RECLAIMED — our Love & Mental Health Awareness Month series on Ask Nyomi: Bridging the Gap. Week 1: WHEN LOVE LIES Betrayal, Secrets & Your Mental Health What happens to your mind, your heart and your sense of self when the person you gave everything to was never fully honest about who they were? Whether it was a secret career, a secret life, a secret identity — betrayal is betrayal. And it leaves a mark that most people never get to name. Tonight we name it. Your host Nyomi Banks (Da Goddess of Self Love) is joined by co-host Dogg Pound Mike Mike and health psychologist Dr. Will Washington of Washington Wellness Institute for a live, interactive conversation you do not want to miss. Have a story? Email asknyomi@gmail.com Support the cause: link in show notes Ask Nyomi: Bridging the Gap Thursday May 7, 2026 — 6PM PST — LIVEWant to create live streams like this? Check out StreamYard: https://streamyard.com/pal/d/5788763212218368

from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H6mJVFj-nkk