What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? Healing Through Heartbreak and Loss (With Jonathon Aslay)

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me (https://www.buzzsprout.com/2628501/fan_mail/new) You know how to love other people. You know how to show up for everyone else. But somewhere along the way, loving yourself became the hardest relationship of all. That's not a character flaw. Nobody ever taught you how. This week, I'm kicking off Season 6 Wisdom Wednesdays with Jonathon Aslay, author of What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? and a dating and relationship coach on a mission to help both men and women fully love themselves. After a divorce, a lost career, and the loss of his 19-year-old son, Connor, in 2018, Jonathon's own grief sent him on a soul-searching journey that changed how he coaches, writes, and lives. We talk about what self-love really means, nurturing the emotional "six-year-old" inside all of us, the difference between self-love and selfishness, why dating has become a form of entertainment, how insecure attachment pulls us away from our own sovereignty, and why he believes gratitude is the highest form of love. He also shares one real action you can take today, especially if you're in the middle of heartbreak or self-doubt. We talk about: • What self-love is — and the one thing Jonathon would add to his book: nurturing your emotional six-year-old • How divorce, loss, and a long season of depression became the starting point for his healing work • Grieving with love instead of suffering, and why gratitude and acceptance became his foundation • Taking personal ownership of your life instead of living from victim consciousness • The line between self-love and selfishness • Why so few of us can say why we want a relationship or what its purpose is • Insecure attachment, and how attaching to someone in an unhealthy way can pull you away from your own sovereignty • Loving on yourself versus fully loving yourself — and why growth is enough • One action to start today: a fear and limiting-beliefs inventory, with forgiveness • Reclaimed & Unashamed: reclaiming his spirituality If you're in the middle of heartbreak, loss, or self-doubt and aren't sure where to start, this conversation offers a gentle place to begin. In This Episode • Guided meditation — "You don't have to earn the love you already carry inside of you." • Meet Jonathon Aslay — author, coach, and father on a mission to help people love themselves • Self-love, evolving — what Jonathon would add to his 2019 book • From divorce and depression to emotional scaffolding — the personal development journey that came before loss • What is love, really? — the questions behind the book • Personal responsibility vs. victim consciousness • Favorite chapters — "Speak your truth, do it with kindness" and "If it's sincere and from the heart, you can't say the wrong thing to the right person" • Self-love vs. selfishness • The purpose of relationships today — and why dating has become entertainment • Attachment and sovereignty • Grieving with love — choosing gratitude and acceptance after losing his son • One action to start today — writing out your fears, insecurities, and limiting beliefs, forgiving yourself, and asking "Gus" (God, Universe, Spirit) how to heal • Reclaimed & Unashamed — Jonathon's answer • Closing thoughts — "You are worthy of love, starting with your own." About Jonathon Aslay Jonathon Aslay is the author of What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? (2019) and a dating and relationship coach who works with both men and women. After losing his 19-year-old son, Connor, in a 2018 accident, his own grief reshaped how he coaches, writes, and lives. Search his name online to find his YouTube channel, website, and social media; his book is available on Amazon. Books mentioned in this episode: What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? by Jonathon Aslay, Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer, and The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi (https://studio.com/nyomi) or elevatemenyomi.com (https://elevatemenyomi.com) 🎬 Souls premieres October 22 on Tubi 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com (https://theseasonofselflove.com) 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is sponsored by Goalie and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App. Connect with Nyomi • Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast (https://instagram.com/theseasonofsellovepodcast) • Facebook: theseasonofselflove (https://facebook.com/theseasonofselflove) Tags / Keywords self-love, Jonathon Aslay, What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway, grief and healing, heartbreak, relationship coaching, inner child, attachment styles, dating and relationships, gratitude, wisdom Wednesday, season 6, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, guest interview, self-awarene...

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