"Have you seen any growth from me?" This weekend, someone Nyomi loves asked her this five-word question—and shame almost kept her from answering honestly. In this powerful season premiere for April, Nyomi shares the story of choosing truth over comfort, the moment shame tried to creep in, and why she chose to speak her truth with compassion anyway. After a month of reclaiming boundaries in March, April is about what you do with the space those boundaries created. It's about growing boldly, visibly, and unapologetically—even when your growth doesn't look like what others expect. NEW FORMAT ALERT: April is action month. Mindset Monday introduces the weekly theme. Action Wednesday (replacing Wisdom Wednesday) gives you the tools to implement it. No guests this month—just you, Nyomi, and the work of growing unapologetically. IN THIS EPISODE The Weekend & The Altar Moment: • Nyomi wakes up at her altar feeling heavy after a weekend of both amazing and life-altering events for loved ones • Even in the hard moments, she saw the blessing, the growth, the opportunity hidden in difficulty • The heaviness wasn't about the weekend—it was about a conversation and a question she was afraid to answer honestlyThe Five-Word Question: • "Have you seen any growth from me?" • One honest question from someone she loves • The moment she realized they might be measuring two different thingsThe Problem with Defining Growth: • Some people think growth means: career advancement, buying a home, getting the promotion, checking boxes—external markers everyone can see • For others (like Nyomi): growth means becoming a better you, finding who you are, self-love journey, not being limited by expectations or fear • Growth means healing, setting boundaries, showing up when it's hard, choosing yourselfThe Shame That Tried to Creep In: • Shame whispered: "Don't say what you really think. Don't hurt their feelings. Just tell them what they want to hear." • What if her definition of their growth isn't what they're looking for? • What if she honors their internal journey but they think she's saying they haven't accomplished anything? • Shame said: "Just shrink. Just make it easy. Just say yes and move on." • The pause was long and loud—the quietest, loudest moment of the conversationThe Choice to Speak Truth with Compassion: • "First, know that this is coming from love." • "Yes, I've seen your growth. I've seen you become more aware. I've seen you set boundaries you wouldn't have set before. I've seen you ask for help when you used to suffer in silence. I've seen you show up for yourself. I've seen you healing." • Then the critical insight: "The fact that you're sitting here asking me this question means you're aware that more growth is needed or warranted on your part. And that awareness? That's growth too."5 Lessons About Growth: 1. Growth has no single definition - What looks like growth to you might not look like growth to someone else. You don't have to measure your growth by someone else's ruler. You don't have to apologize for growing in ways that don't fit the script. 2. Shame will try to silence your truth about growth - Shame will tell you that your version of growth isn't "real" growth. Shame will make you apologize for growing slowly. But shame is a liar. 3. Growth requires space - You can't grow in a space where you're constantly being drained, violated, dismissed, or shrunk. The boundaries you set in March created the space for April's growth. 4. Asking for validation is growth - If you're asking "Am I growing?" that means you're aware, paying attention, not on autopilot. Asking is part of the process. Asking is growth. 5. Unashamed growth means defining it for yourself and standing in it boldly - You don't have to shrink your definition of growth to make other people comfortable. You can grow quietly, internally, in ways only you can see. And it still counts.The Bathroom Story (Real-Life Example): • Nyomi shares a perfect example of unashamed growth: redecorating her downstairs bathroom • She took down silver wallpaper, got green paint swatches three months ago, finally committed • Started second-guessing: "I think I'm doing too much" • Her husband reminded her: "You be you. You've done so much work to be comfortable in your skin. When people walk into our home, they walk in one way, when they leave, they leave another way." • The bathroom is part of her sanctuary, part of transformation, part of truth • It's a reflection of her—and being unashamed of that reflection is growth • "It just happened to be the color green"Introducing: The Season of Growth (Unashamed) • April theme: Unashamed Growth • After reclaiming boundaries in March, now it's time to say YES—to expansion, blooming, taking up space, becoming more of who you already are • Doing this without shame, guilt, or making ourselves smallNEW FORMAT: Mindset Monday + Action Wedn...
from Nyomi's World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MN2_aPM1ED8
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